Saturday, December 31, 2016
This year has been one for the books. An upset election, racial tension rising, and for me personally, my father lost his battle with Dementia. As I sit here and reflect on 2016, I can't say that I am sad to see it leave. I am anxiously awaiting to see what 2017 has to offer.
I pray for you, our country, and President Obama and his family as he leaves office. He did the best he could with the challenges of having a Republican Senate, and House. Although I am sad to see him leave, I am grateful to know that he can get some much-needed rest, and can take Mrs. Obama on a and I quote "Much needed and long overdue vacation."
I know a lot of you are preparing for Spring Semester, Rush, in hopes of getting picked to join the organization of your choice. I wish you all the best with that. As I have stated on my previous blogs, just be yourself, and I am sure you will be fine.
On another note, one of my favorite Delta Vendors, TIG:MIR is closing its doors. I am SO sad. Ironically I just placed a HUGE order to the vendor 2 weeks ago. Most of her stuff that is generally $50-$60 a piece is now $5-$20 each. I went back and stacked up on a LOT of items. I think I bought ALL of her remaining pieces in like EVERY.SINGLE.COLOR! When she made the announcement on New Years Eve, I was crushed. After getting out of my feelings (LOL) I started to buy, buy, buy! And to get stuff that was originally 60 bucks and they are now FIVE BUCKS? Girl BYE! As I stated I snatched up every color, in TWO DIFFERENT SIZES (in case I lose weight, LOL). I ordered $700 worth of items for.....Drumroll please.......$120! WINNER!!!!! Here is a preview of some of the items I purchased. I can't wait to rock 'em this summer.
Sunday, December 4, 2016
Bonjour Mon Ami!
I am excited to announce that after a SEVEN year hiatus, my chapter is back on the yard. 26 young ladies crossed the sands into Delta-Land at my alma mater. I was sad that I wasn't able to see them, HOWEVER I was ecstatic that my husband's ship (line brother) was able to attend and live streamed it for me to see. A lot sorors who were initiated in my home chapter all came down for their initiation and their NIP (New Initiate Presentation). It was a beautiful sight to see. Seeing them on center stage took me back to when I crossed. I was also able to see my prophytes, my neos, and my line sisters as well. I cannot wait to return back to my home chapter to meet the neos in person.
One of my prophyte's daughter just became a delta s well. She just chartered a BRAND new chapter. I am so excited for them. I am sure it took a lot hard work, and dedication.
So, if you are in a position where there is not a chapter on your yard due to either suspension, lack of interests for many years, or there was never a chapter on the yard, don't give up! With persistence, a lot of hard work and dedication, you can make it happen!
Sunday, November 27, 2016
Happy Friday Peeps!
Yesterday I was blessed enough to share my home with one of my High School Besties! It was great to see her, reminisce about old times, and break bread with her. I hope all of you had a wonderful Thanksgiving as well.
I was thrilled to see my timeline, IG, and twitter page filled with Sorors crossing into Delta-land. Some came from chapters that just came back on the yard, brand new charter members establishing a new chapter, PWIs, HBCUs, etc. I was also happy to see pictures and videos of new members or other Greek Letter Organizations (AKA, Alpha, Omega, and Zeta). Some are still going through their process, and I am sure they can't WAIT until they cross over into Greekland. So what are you all thankful for this year?
Friday, October 14, 2016
Pledging a Greek Letter Organization was one of the best decisions I ever made. Some may ask me why? What is "so special" about becoming a member of one of the Divine Nine? Well first off, although I am a member of the Divine Nine, I must also note (as I have done before) that I am member of other Greek Letter Organizations. Several of them mind you. So here are few reasons of why I enjoy being a member.
1. The bond that I have between my line sisters. When I first met my line sisters I didn't know them. NONE of them. We were all strangers put together, with different backgrounds, majoring in different subjects in college, but we all had one common goal. To become members of the same sorority. It was scary at first. Well at least for me it was scary. This was only because I was a very shy person. I am also VERY cautious of who I allow in my personal space. I didn't know these women from Eve, yet I knew that was about to change. I realized after being chosen that I had to let my guard down in order for me to get to know these women. We grew to not only know each other, but respect and LOVE each other. It was beautiful. The experience that I had with these women, I would NEVER trade for anything else. They had my back, they dried my tears, they held me down, they encouraged me, and they were, and still are my support system.
2. The bond that I had with other Greeks. When you become a member of an organization, it's more than just the "Three" Letter across your chest. You now have this AMAZING Divine 9 community to bond with. The love you are shown from the Greek community is amazing! We support each other including going to each other events, participating in community service projects together, going on road trips together, as well as bonding together.
3. Becoming a member allowed me to have Leadership opportunities. I have held various offices with my sorority including President, Vice President, Chaplain, Recording Secretary, Corresponding Secretary, and Chapter Photographer. It was a joy working with other members in the chapter. These qualities have helped me after college, in my career, and in other facets in my life.
4. Shopping! Okay, so this is like a shallow answer, but hey, I can't talk about being member of a BGLO and not talk about Paraphernalia! As a young girl, there was this cute little Store in Evergreen Plaza (Chicago, on 95th and Western) and my mom use to shop at one of her favorite stores called "Montgomery Ward." Right across from Montgomery Ward there was a these cute Black Store that sold Greek Items. While my mom would shop in MW, I ask her if I could go across the aisle to the store. They had the CUTEST things in there. Elephants, Plaques, Shirts, Jewelry, Books, Art work, etc. When I FINALLY crossed, my oldest sister bought me an elephant from that store. The reason why I TREASURE that elephant so much, is for two reasons. ONE because my sister purchased it for me, and 2 that store no longer exist (Evergreen also doesn't exist anymore) and it brings back so many memories of when I would go to the store and daydream about purchasing items from there. Since crossing I have bought SO much Pari it's ridiculous. LOL! But truth be told all of my items have a story behind them, and each story is precious and unique. The story ranges from my first elephant, my first jewelry, my first shirt, etc.
5. Connections! When I first moved to Arizona for school reasons I first became a member at large. This means I am no longer affiliated with a chapter but I am financial with the National Chapter. After a year I found a chapter and transferred my membership from being a Membership at Large to a member of my local chapter. While I was in the last semester of my graduate degree, another local chapter of my sorority invited me to sing at our Joint Founders Day event. I performed and a few weeks later a soror from the chapter contacted me to see if I taught music. I thought she as asking because she wanted to know if she wanted me to go to a job fair with her. Turns out, she was a brand new principal with a brand new school opening up in the Valley and wanted me to apply. Nevertheless I applied, interview and was given the job. She was an amazing boss. The only thing we had in common before she hired me was we were sorority sisters. After hearing me sing she contacted me to see if I also taught music. After working for her for a year, we grew very close to the point of traveling to South Korea with each other for a Sorority International Sisterhood event together.
That's all I will list for now. Watch out for Part II!
Ciao for now!
Saturday, August 20, 2016
Sunday, April 10, 2016
I love this time of year......April is always the month when my social media accounts is filled with pictures of New Sorors/Sistergreeks/Fraternity crossing over into Greek-land. This weekend alone, I have seen over 15 Delta Chapters post pictures of their new members. My heart is warm. I also received email msgs from people who have followed my blog send me pictures of themselves in their paraphernalia. (18 Deltas, 5 AKAs, 2 Zetas, 3 Alphas, 1 Omega, and 3 Kappas to be exact so far). Although this is a time for celebration, and happy tears for some, this is also a time of sadness, and/or bitterness for others. This can be due to not making "line" receiving a letter of rejection, and not understanding how she made it and you didn't. I have addressed this in my blog before, so I won't rehash what I have already stated, but just remember there is always next time. Not making "line" the first time is NOT the end of the world....It will just make the time when you DO make line, that much sweeter, TRUST ME!
If you have a friend/family member that just crossed into GreekLand, congratulate them. Tell them you are genuinely happy for them. You never know, that may be YOU next year. :)
Saturday, February 20, 2016
I was so excited today to attend my chapter's founders day celebration. It was fun, festive, and educational. Originally were going to have Soror Daphne Maxwell-Reid as the guest speaker, but unfortunately she had and emergency and she had to cancel at the last minute. Thankfully we were able to secure Past Second Vice President Chelsea Hayes. She was AWESOME!!!!
The entire day was filled with positive energy, love and sisterhood. We also had an opportunity to give back to the community. Our Community Service Project; Blessing Bags. We were able to put together over 150 bags for the homeless and those re-entering society following incarceration.
Sorors hard at work!
The Finished Product
Friday, February 5, 2016
Happy Friday Everyone.....
These last few weeks have been hectic on my end, but I am so happy it's FRIDAY!!!! YAY! (Praise Break) I enjoy my weekends. I will especially enjoy NEXT WEEKEND! My darling husband told me to pack my bags, take Friday off and we are going on a mini-vaca for V-day. It's been a while since we have been able to do a couple's getaway, so this is long-overdue.
I had to make a post tonight, to simply say "Thank You." I realized on this evening that this blog has reached one million views. WOW! I am so grateful that people are finding my posts interesting and filled with information. When I started this blog, I never dreamed of it reaching that many views to be quite honest. There are other BGLO blogs out there, as well as YouTube videos I'm sure, however you all made this possible.
So.......I am taking special requests....What other things would you like for me to discuss on this blog?
Friday, January 22, 2016
Happy Friday Folks!
I hate being sick. First my oldest brother spent the Holidays with me, and he brought his California cold with him. Then my darling husband caught his cold, and NOW I caught HIS cold. Being sick is for the birds. My hope is to spend the weekend in bed, drugged up on Nyquil and feeling hopeful that I will be able to shake this cold.
I hope your new year is off to a great start. I am down 8 pounds, so I am thrilled! I decided to blog tonight about the myths about pledging. And there are plenty. So let's just dive right in.
Since I am over 25, and I am still working on my undergraduate degree, I have to wait and pledge a graduate chapter once I graduate from college.
MYTH!- I had stated before in my "Journey to Greek life" that one of my line sisters was well in her 30's when she joined. I also have a dear friend of mine that pledged Alpha Kappa Alpha with her mom! She was 19, and her mom was 43.
To join a BGLO, you need to step.
MYTH! Stepping is just a small part of being a member of a BGLO. Truth be told, I know a lot of sorors that have NEVER stepped, and/or strolled after becoming a member. It's just a perk of becoming a member, definitely not a requirement. If you feel you have two left feet, or stepping isn't your thing, don't worry about it.
I can ask anyone to write me a letter of recommendation.
MYTH! -When I was interested in becoming a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. I will never forget stumbling across "So you want to be Delta" written by BeeJae Jackson-Bulter. In her blog, she wrote that you should ONLY ask someone who personally know you. Someone who you can trust. She even went as far to say, someone, you would feel comfortable with leaving them along with your husband.
You need to give up your life while pledging....
Well, it depends. Giving up your life is relative. What do I mean by that? Learning about the organization, taking and passing the tests to gain membership, bonding with your line brothers and line sisters, takes a lot of time. If you are going through MIP at the undergraduate level, it will take a ton of your time. The only thing you will have time for is school work, studying, hopefully, a part-time job, and that's it. If you are going through MIP at the graduate level, then outside of your full-time job, children, spouse, etc.
The hardest part of pledging is ....well.....pledging.
MYTH- Everyone knows that the real work begins AFTER you join the organization.
Monday, January 18, 2016
Well, first I would tell you to enjoy being fresh off the sands. You are Geeked about your coming out show (Some refer to it as NIP, New Initiate Presentation). Your hair is on fleek, you all look fabulous in your outfits together, you have rehearsed and perfected the show. You can't wait to reveal yourself to your campus/community. You earned it! You deserve it. This is your time! Enjoy it!
How do you balance work and fun? Can you have both? Of course, you can! When I first became a Delta, I was a nerd regarding wanting to know EVERYTHING there is to know about Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. I read our ritual, page by page, cover to cover as if it was a juicy Zane novel. I wanted to find out everything about the founders, the organization, the history, etc. Sure I learned a lot when I was going through the membership intake process, but I wanted to know MORE! I wanted to be knowledgeable before I attended my first "official" Delta meeting.
Look I get it, you're excited, passionate, you want to learn everything. You also wish to join every single committee, run for an office, and get your hands dirty. No shame in that. I was that girl. My first year, I was on several committees, the chapter president, participated in every step show, became the step-master, and on TOP of that, I had school and a part time job. I was a bit overwhelmed but loved every minute of it.
My best advice? Take it slow. Only YOU know how much you can handle. Remember that membership in these organizations is a lifetime commitment, so there is no rush to join every committee under the sun all at once. Especially as a neophyte. Don't get me wrong, I am not telling you to get involved, but don't overwhelm yourself. The one thing that I have seen from other neophytes from various organizations including mine is they joining every committee and within five years, they are burnt out. Brace yourself. Sign up for a committee or two. Make sure the committee you DO sign up for is one that you would enjoy doing. Case in point, if you love planning, then fundraising might be your thing. Have a lot of ideas for community service? Bingo! Do you love meeting and working with people? Membership would be perfect for you.
Congratulations on your membership. Don't overextend yourself, you have a lifetime to make a difference.
Sunday, January 17, 2016
Saturday, January 16, 2016
I love how we can make fun of each other every now and then. I found these videos hilarious! Enjoy!!!
PS: I can't wait to see the video he makes for Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc.
Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.
Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc.
Zeta Phi Beta Sorority Inc.
PS: I can't wait to see the video he makes for Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc.
Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.
Wednesday, January 13, 2016
I am excited that my sorority is celebrating 103 years of Scholarship, Sisterhood and Service. I just purchased a Canon All in One Printer/Scanner and Fax, and I was excited to post "Throwback" photos of my journey in Delta-land. The love that we received from each other, other Greeks and non-Greeks was awesome. My social media accounts were BLEEDING crimson and cream the entire day that made my heart warm. Thank you founders, for paving the way! Happy 103 Sorors!!!!
Deltas from Capitol Hill Showing Love!
From the Men of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity Inc.
From the Men of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Inc.
From the Ladies of Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc.
From the Men of Iota Phi Theta Fraternity Inc.
From the Men of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity Inc.
Saturday, January 2, 2016
Happy New Year Again Folks!
Today was a chill day for me. I didn't wake up until late; then the hubby treated me out to one of my favorite restaurants "Outback Steakhouse." We then went to the store "Michaels" to look for some frames for a few art pieces that I bought him for Christmas. My house is FILLED with Art pieces, and 90 percent of them are musical pieces. As you already know, I was a music major in College and my darling husband was an Art Major. (He is now in leadership in IT, go figure, lol) He can draw/paint his tail off. At any rate, after putting up the artwork, I started to look at one of the art pieces that he had drawn for me when I crossed into Delta Land many years ago. I had on this one of a kind Delta tank top that I had made the same year I crossed. I haven't seen it or worn it in years. I decided to pull that baby out and was kind of in denial in trying it on. It did not fit at all. I grew a little sad. I realized that my days of being tiny were gone.
Now don't get me wrong, my husband LOVES me at this size (I gained about 25 pounds since we got married) I am now a perfect size 8 sometimes 6 depending on the cut of the clothes This is far from the size 0 when he first met me. I was a size 4 when we got married. He loves the fact that I filled out all in the right places and didn't want me to lose a pound. I now have more of an hourglass shape, which he enjoys. ;-) Thankfully the weight I gained filled me out on top and bottom.
After realizing on today that I can no longer wear my cute tank top, I made a promise to get back into shape. I NEVER want to be a size 0 in life, and quite honestly, losing weight is not my primary goal. Just getting toned up is. My hubby and I use to work out consistently when we first got together. We both had six pack abs, and I my arms was very toned. Although I was very muscular, I was still very much so feminine. I always made a point to modify my lifting if I was getting too buff. So now the weight-loss, getting tone journey begins. Thankfully my darling husband bought me the top of the line Vitamix so I will be putting that to more use. He misses the fact that we don't work out together like we use to, so now he is on this journey with me. YAY!!!!
Here Is Tonight's Dinner
My next few posts will be about my weight-loss journey, and at the end, I will post pictures of me in my old paraphernalia. I am excited about the mere thought of it.
Are any of you on a weight-loss/healthy journey? If so, what types of things do you do? What keeps you motivated? Another precious gift my wonderful husband bought me is the wireless beats by DRE. They sound AMAZING!!!!! Funny story behind that is we ended up buying the headphones for each other for Christmas. We had NO IDEA!!!! We laughed and laughed and laughed when we both opened up our Christmas gifts. He bought me the red version (duh) and I got him the color, platinum.
One of our Christmas Gifts to each other
I guess we've been together for so long, we know what we both like. I will be utilizing them at the gym for my workouts. The fact that they are wireless, as well as noise canceling, is a bonus.
Well, here's to me getting back to my old self. Wish me luck!
Ciao for now,
Friday, January 1, 2016
Happy New Year Everyone!
I spent the New Years Celebrating with my family. We had a great time. First we went to the Phoenix Symphony to listen to come classical music and Opera singers. It was fantastic! We had a wonderful time. Then we got a hotel suite and celebrated it with a glass of Sparkling Grape at the Stroke of Midnight. Then we did our usual routine of hitting the floor with our knees and giving God all the honor and praise of allowing us to see 2016.
I woke up the next morning with some devastating news. I found that my soror Natalie Cole died. She was in the middle of doing a tour, but due to illness, she had to cancel.
I love me some Natalie Cole. I had the pleasure of seeing her perform, and her voice is like no other. Very smooth, just like her father, Nat King Cole.
The other thing that I LOVED about Natalie Cole is the love she had for Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. She was a proud member. I had to dedicate this post to her. I am sure she is singing wonderful melodies with her father in heaven.
Sorors Sheryl Lee Ralph and Natalie Cole
RIP Soror Cole! You will be missed.