Friday, January 22, 2016

The Myth of Pledging Part I

Happy Friday Folks!

I hate being sick. First my oldest brother spent the Holidays with me, and he brought his California cold with him. Then my darling husband caught his cold, and NOW I caught HIS cold. Being sick is for the birds. My hope is to spend the weekend in bed, drugged up on Nyquil and feeling hopeful that I will be able to shake this cold.

I hope your new year is off to a great start. I am down 8 pounds, so I am thrilled! I decided to blog tonight about the myths about pledging. And there are plenty. So let's just dive right in.

Since I am over 25, and I am still working on my undergraduate degree, I have to wait and pledge a graduate chapter once I graduate from college.

MYTH!- I had stated before in my "Journey to Greek life" that one of my line sisters was well in her 30's when she joined. I also have a dear friend of mine that pledged Alpha Kappa Alpha with her mom! She was 19, and her mom was 43.

To join a BGLO, you need to step.

MYTH! Stepping is just a small part of being a member of a BGLO. Truth be told, I know a lot of sorors that have NEVER stepped, and/or strolled after becoming a member. It's just a perk of becoming a member, definitely not a requirement. If you feel you have two left feet, or stepping isn't your thing, don't worry about it.

I can ask anyone to write me a letter of recommendation.

MYTH! -When I was interested in becoming a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. I will never forget stumbling across "So you want to be Delta" written by BeeJae Jackson-Bulter. In her blog, she wrote that you should ONLY ask someone who personally know you. Someone who you can trust. She even went as far to say, someone, you would feel comfortable with leaving them along with your husband.

You need to give up your life while pledging....

Well, it depends. Giving up your life is relative. What do I mean by that? Learning about the organization, taking and passing the tests to gain membership, bonding with your line brothers and line sisters, takes a lot of time. If you are going through MIP at the undergraduate level, it will take a ton of your time. The only thing you will have time for is school work, studying, hopefully, a part-time job, and that's it. If you are going through MIP at the graduate level, then outside of your full-time job, children, spouse, etc.

The hardest part of pledging is ....well.....pledging.

MYTH- Everyone knows that the real work begins AFTER you join the organization.

13 comments:

  1. You're right about that last part for sure Soror! When people join a BGLO, they should be ready to WORK! It's a commitment beyond the college campus!

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  2. Will you please go into detail about what is considered an incomplete packet. For instance, I turned in ALL my forms. When something didn't apply to me I left it blank instead of putting NA. Would that be considered incomplete?

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    1. From my understanding, yes. If it didn't apply you were supposed to put N/A (it says so on the application).

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    2. Yes, treat it like a job application, don't leave anything blank.

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    3. Yes, you should treat it like a job application(don't leave anything blank) always put N/A even when you're not sure.

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  3. I turned in my packet received a call on a Thursday night for an interview on Friday night. I went to my interview I feel that I did well. How long does it take before I receive a call that i have been chosen as a member or receive a rejection letter which I hope isn't the case.

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  4. What about social media? Are some pledges advise to stay away from social media?

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  5. What about social media? Are some pledges allowed to not get on social media or post?

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  6. Could you do a post on what steps need to be taken prior to rush? I've been searching and found a few things but I feel like gaps are missing and I don't want to(or know how to) approach someone of the org on campus. A family member is apart of XYZ org but she crossed years ago, and I'm sure times have changed.

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    1. Before Rush: attend the organization's public events. Demonstrate your support. Network and get to know a member or two before Rush. Study their website, or their national website. Know key dates, major programs/initiatives that the org supports. Stand out :)

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  7. I am interested in joining a sorority; however, no one in my family has gone greek before and I don't personally know anyone who could write a letter for me while I do know a few women from church I can't say they follow the qualifications you spoke about what should I do?

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  8. I am a 46 year old undergraduate at a HBCU school in New Orleans, I've always wanted to become a member of a sorority, it just never happened because most of my college years were at community college. I will graduate in may and I feel like this is my last chance, but I am very nervous because I feel like I am too old, compared to my classmates and If it happens, I'm still not sure which organizations would be a better fit for me. Since day one, my heart said pink and green but my friends and family say red and white. My son who will also be a graduating senior this year, told me that I could go either way.Confused!!!

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