Saturday, December 27, 2014

Sorority Sisters.........


So there's this show......on VH1.....called Sorority Sisters.   A lot of people asked me if I heard of the show. YES! Have I seen the Show? YES! Do I support the show? Uh, NO!

When I first heard about this show it was last summer....actually, let me rewind, it was further than that. I remember when there was a casting call for women who were members of the Divine Nine. I must admit that my curiosity got the best of me. When I found it Mona Scott-Young was behind it, I  knew it was going to be a ghetto hot mess. I actually thought there is no way in the world, an ACTIVE-FINANCIAL member of any sorority would be a part of this. BOY WAS I WRONG. When the trailer was released last summer, the Divine Nine members came a blazin! Someone created a petition, and in a matter of days, over 40k signatures (mine's included) was collected.

Mona went as far as trying to bring her cast to AGP (Atlanta Greek Picnic) but the organizers shut her down. The next thing I knew, the trailer was pulled from the internet, and it seemed as if sorority sisters would not see the light of day. YES! I was happy, people in geekdom was happy and all was well with the world.

Then about three weeks ago, it appeared again.  This time, a longer trailer was released. This time they had a premier date. When I watched the trailer I was mortified! Deltas' arguing with other Deltas. AKAs and Deltas arguing, cussing each other out and not getting along, etc. This isn't what SISTERHOOD is about. This show is NOT a representation of what GreekLife is about. If it was, TRUST ME, I would NOT have became a member of ANY sorority.

I watched the first episode so I could judge for MYSELF how it would be. I was hoping for the best, but I was wrong.  I couldn't even watch the entire episode, so I flipped the channel.  (I hate I gave them 10 or so mins of my time) A few mins later a soror on FB invited me to an event on Facebook  "Do NOT watch Sorority Sisters, and I invited every soror and Greek on my page to join. Although I did not watch the entire episode,  according to my Facebook feed, the show was just as bad as  LAHHNY and LAHHATL. I cringed because they didn't even TRY to disguise that these women were members of these organizations. I heard that they wore the colors, did their hand signs, did the call, and the at every time they did a confessional, their name appeared at the bottom of the screen, they made a point to state the FULL NAME of their Greek letter organization.  I was mortified, confused, angry, and embarrassed. What made this worse, is most of these women were in their early 30's late 40s. Just a few of them were in their late 20's. WHO ACTS like this at this age????? WHO? It was embarrassing on so many levels.

Mona Scott-Young and VH1 made a mockery of these organizations that was founded on scholarship, SISTERHOOD, and service.

The only thing this ghetto of a hot-mess show did was unite the BGLOs even closer together. Since VH1 did not hear us, (They came out with a statement that they will not be shutting the show down) then we decided to boycott the advertisers who advertised during the show. Our efforts have worked so far. To date we have 41 advertisers who have promised not to air their commercials during Sorority Sisters. I had tons of people inboxing me, and tweeting me about my opinion of the show. I told them NOT TO WATCH, and expressed my concerns about how it was not a good look for greek life in general.   We may not be able to shut the show down THIS season, but I am hoping that this will be the LAST season they will have sorority sisters.

So do me a favor, please let's all stand together (rather if you are Greek or not) and BOYCOTT Sorority Sisters.

Sunday, December 14, 2014

Fall Break-Spring Foward.....




Happy Holidays Everyone!

Wishing all of you that are enrolled either in a college and university many blessings and safe travels (for those who attend school outside of their hometown). This time of year always makes me excited! I will NEVER forget when I was anxiously awaiting my FINAL grades because I wanted to make a huge impression on the Delta Chapter at my School. My grades FINALLY came in on December 23rd, and my GPA was a 3.8. It's funny because I was jumping up and down in our living room, and my mom was like "Chile what is wrong with you?" I told her that I aced last semester, and she was proud!

After coming off of my high of having a 3.8 GPA (the minimal requirement for joining the sorority was a 2.5. However, I wanted to go over and BEYOND the minimum requirement) I started to get very nervous and all of the what ifs started to set it.

What if they don't like me?
What if they feel like they don't know me?
What if my overall 3.8 isn't good enough?
What if I can't overcome my shyness?
What if I don't get granted an interview?
What if I get stumped on an interviewing question?
What if? What if? What if?

I had a wonderful Christmas that year, spending half of it with my family in Chicago, and the other half with my then boyfriend, now husband's family.  My husband and her sister JUST pledge Alpha Phi Alpha and Alpha Kappa Alpha the year before, and they were trying to give me a few tips on how to stand out when I returned to school.

I started to make a journal share my thoughts on how I was feeling, as well as write down the advice that I was given from my sister-n-law. I wanted to get in contact with my ex's sister since she gave such excellent advice and was a Delta, but felt it would be too weird since the break up with her brother, and I was horrible. At any rate, writing down my feelings in my journal was exhilarating. Now and then from time to time, I go back and read my thoughts and get a real laugh at how I was nervous for NOTHING! I wrote down possible questions of what I THOUGHT they would ask me, like Why do you want to be Delta, what could you bring to Delta, Why should we pick you for membership, etc. Now, of course, I had no idea if they would ask these questions or not, so I was just "Guessing" and preparing myself. I just figured since people have always said to treat it like a job interview, I rolled with that.

All of those "What Ifs" that I asked myself was very helpful in the end. I realized that I had to be me! I had to be the person that God created me to be, and if that wasn't good enough for them, then I will just try again the following year.

So my advice to you during this "STRESSFUL TIME"??? Enjoy your winter break. You have worked SO hard this semester, studying hard, getting good grades, and performing and serving your community. (At least that what you SHOULD have been doing) And NOW???? The fall semester is behind you, and the Spring Semester is upon you in a few weeks. During this time, the only thing I asked for Christmas was $$$$ Something I had NEVER asked before. However, I knew that joining Delta was going to be an EXPENSIVE task......Although I had already saved up quite a bit of money from my job, I wanted to be safe than sorry. I started browsing the internet, looking at cute Delta Paraphernalia and bookmarking some internet sites of things that caught my eye. Now I had no idea if I would ever get a chance actually to PURCHASE these items because as I stated before, the chapter where I attended was VERY PICKY on who they picked for membership.

So enjoy your holidays with your family. Although me telling you not to stress is pointless, start preparing yourself to have a great and successful semester. Happy Holidays to you all!