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Monday, January 6, 2014

Letter of Recommendation: Who Should I ASK?????



So I know it's that time of year where a lot of prospective members are scrambling trying to get everything in order for them to pledge XYZ Sorority/Fraternity. As I stated before, each organization has their own process/procedure when applying for membership. Most orgs will ask you for a letter of recommendation from an active and financial member. Here are a few tips I can give you regarding this matter.

1. Ask someone you KNOW! This is SO important! They need to know who they are writing a letter to. Do you know them personally? More importantly do you know THEM personally? You want them to "brag" about you, and how can they brag if they don't' know you?

2. Are they active and more importantly FINANCIAL with the organizations? I am assuming if you asking them then  you have seen them participate in chapter events such as community service events, fundraising events, etc. Why is this important? Well several organizations require that its' prospective members get a letter of recommendation from a "dues paying" member. Are you trying to ask someone who haven't been active for a while? Chances are, if they have not be active with a chapter, they are not financial. This will deem your application of being invalid.

3. Always have an A, B, AND C plan as to someone writing your LOR. (Letter of Recommendation). I say this because you want to make sure you can get in touch with the person, prepare yourself for possibly getting  a "no", or the you may find out that the ONLY person you relied on is not financial. When I joined what feels like many moons ago, I had ONE person in mind. My ex-boyfriend's sister. I spoke to her on the phone a couple of times, and when the time came, she wasn't able to write me a letter of recommendation. Well let me clarify, by stating when the time came, I meant when I felt COMFORTABLE asking her, it wasn't like I needed it for an upcoming rush or anything like that. Then I met and grew close to another member at my job while we both were working as sales associates at Marshall Fields. It was funny because I ended up transferring to the school she pledged at. Two years later when I asked for an LOR, I found out she was inactive. DANG! So disappointed, but THANKFULLY I had a C plan. And this Soror was more than willing to write me a letter of recommendation. I found out many yrs. later that she NEVERS write a letter of recommendation for ANYONE, so the fact thats he wrote me one tells me that I made quite an impression on her.

As for me???? I have been asked 25 times to write a LOR, and how many have I written? 1….YUP JUST ONE! I am very picky on who I choose to write a letter to. I have to really know you to write you a letter, and I just don't be writing letters all willy nilly.

3. The moment  you find out you want to join XYZ organization, find out who you would like to write your letter of recommendation. This is important and will allow you figure out if they fit number 2 and if not, hopefully you can talk to them openly about any suggestions that they may have as to who could write you a letter.

4. GIVE the recommender plenty of time to write your letter. Asking at the last min might result in delays of the chapter receiving your letter, or the person saying they don't have time, or just a point-blank NO!

These are the top FOUR I would suggest you follow when asking for a LOR.

Wishing ALL the prospects for Spring 2014 all the best! 

Saturday, January 4, 2014

HAPPY 2014!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Congrats to ALL of you who crossed over into Greek Land Fall Semester. I have received emails from followers who are now my sorors, Zetas, AKAs, Iotas, Kappas and Alphas.

It's 2014, which means a HUGE celebration for Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity Inc. As I stated in my first post "Journey to Greekland" I have a ton of relatives in the "Blue and White" family.  I am truly excited for them, and I can't wait to see my Facebook "blow up" with a ton of posts from my family and friends of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity Inc.  It just seems like on yesterday when my sorors and I were blowing up everyone's newsfeed on Facebook, instagram, and twitter with posts about us turning 100.

I have received a ton of requests from neos if I can create a few posts about the "Life of Being a Neo" If you want to see more posts about this,,,,,please replied to this post. Also let me know what you would like know.

Thursday, January 2, 2014

What Does THAT mean????

Fridays at the school I teach at is considered "Casual Friday" for all teachers. On this particular day I decided to wear some Greek Paraphernalia. During my 3rd period class, three students were inquiring about the letters on my chest.

Student A: What does that mean Mrs. Love?

Me: I belong to a Greek Letter Organization

Student B: You're Greek? I thought you were Black

Student A: No dummy, she said an organization, my mom is one of those thingys

Me: Really?? Do you know which one?

Student A: The one that wears that ugly pink and yellow.

Me: You mean Pink and Greek??? (Laughing on the inside)

Student A: Yeah that's the one. Her and her sisters be screeching really loud!

Student C: Yeah my daddy is a DAWG, (starts hopping)

Student A: Well I'mma tell my moma I wanna be a member of YOUR organization Mrs. Love. I don't like my Mom's organization. They are so stuck up and snotty.

Me: Snotty? Don't you mean the word "snooty"

Student A: Yes, snooty.

Me: Well not ALL members are snooty Student A, so don't judge it just on that okay?

Student A: I don't care what you say, I wanna be one of ya'll. Ya'll cool and down to earth.

Me: Okay settle down class, let's get started on our concert, take out.............

Lesson For the Day : Children are always watching!


Sunday, December 29, 2013

My Beautiful Delta Finds…...

So while I was in DC I did some MAJOR paraphernalia shopping. I saved for this moment for three years….YUP, I had a special "Delta Savings" account separated from my other savings and checking accounts. The great thing about going to National and Regional Conferences are VENDORRRRRSSSSS!!!!! (In my Oprah Winfrey Voice).

At first I was VERY disappointed because they gave us "color coded" bracelets and we were only allowed to visit the vendors during a certain time frame depending on our color. This REALLY sucked for me since most of the my times were during choir rehearsals. At any rate after getting over my disappointment, I decided to make the best of the little time I did have.

Two days later, they made a decision to NOT worry about the color bracelets and would just monitor how many people they would allow in the vending hall at a time. This was pure music to my ears. I was finally able to hit the vendors on day three, and I wanted to go with my ships. One was on her way back home to the Chi, so it was imperative that we all went together.

We just finished touring Howard, and my feet were KILLING ME! The first thing I was on the hunt for was Delta Slippers. Thankfully my one of my ships found me a pair. My feet were thanking me as I stepped out of my heels and into a piece of what seemed like heaven.



After stepping into heaven, we spent a  couple of hours in there until it closed (12am) and I must say that we found some EXCELLENT para. So glad I saved my money for this moment. When I walked in and saw soooooo much Delta Red, My eyes lit up like a Christmas Tree. I didn't even know where to begin. During that time I knew that I made the bEsT decision of saving up for this very moment. Since this is the LARGEST convention, Delta decided to have three different locations for Vendors which included Howard Bookstore, the Renaissance Hotel, the Convention Center (which is where we were).

The funniest thing that happened was I ordered a special made Delta chair for myself right before convention. I wanted it for the "Deltas On the Mall" function with  Singer "Brandy" but the owner of the shop and I played phone the week before I was leaving for DC.  The shop was in Chicago and after missing each other I decided to try to connect with them when I returned home. Imagine my shock when I stumbled upon it at the Convention Center in DC while we were shopping. At first I was like, Wow that's my chapter name, then I was like, wait, that's my Ships' name, And then when I saw the crossing date and my line name I was like WAIT, THATS.MY.CHAIR!!!!!!! I whipped out my Credit Card to pay for it, but the owners was like PLEASE it's the only one we brought from Chicago and I am getting a lot of orders because of it. I told them sure, but laughed hysterically. We both decided that we would connect after convention, so they could continue advertising my chair.

 My Personalize Delta Chair

When I returned home, we finally connected again and I am happy to report my chair made it back to me in one piece. Another great thing is they gave me a NICE discount since I allowed them to advertise.

Two of my ships bought this BEAUTIFUL case, and I am kicking myself for not getting one for myself.


I ended up finding some cute AKA (Yes, as in Alpha Kappa Alpha) stuff for my sister-n-love. She has always been there for me, so I couldn't pass up treating her with some pink and green.

Three hours later, I purchased quite a bit of stuff for myself……Here is a few photos of my Delta Finds…..I haven't worn them all as of yet, but I am looking forward to it. It was wonderful browsing the vendors. I just hate I only went to two of the three locations. (Howard and the Convention Center). I never made my way to the Renaissance Hotel, and found out later that they had the BEST items there. (Go Figure) Thankfully, I was able to get a list of vendors there and connect with them online after convention. I bought some CUTE "Delta Couture" from a vendor TMIR...Will post about that later especially for those of you are considering pledging Delta, AKA, Omega, or Kappa.  I literally bought EVERY SINGLE ITEM she had. Once again, none of the pictures below feature her items, as I feel she deserves her own post, ;-)

One Small Portion....
My CUTE Delta Key Chain, Bracelets, and Necklace  

This is PERFECT for my Desk at School!  

I got a STEAL on these shirts, especially my "High Maintenance" High Heel Shirt

I love my new Delta mirror compact and bracelet! 

My Collective Delta Haul

I ended up buying a few hats, Shoes, 2 Jackets, 6 Shirts, 4 Sweaters, a Plaque, Watch, Pens, Pencils and a host of other things…... You name it, I bought it! :-) I felt like it was crossing night and I was at my neophyte celebration all over again. It was WONDERFUL!

Worth the Wait!!!!












Hello Inspiring future Greek-ers!!! (Okay so I know that's not a word)
With the Fall Semester behind us,  I know most of you are gearing up for hopefully becoming a member of XYZ Sorority/Fraternity next semester (For those of you in College) or in the Spring (For those of you inspiring to join an Alumnae Chapter)

This is a time where your nerves may kick in, you are on the watch for flyers posted around your college campus/or in the community, or depending on the organization you want to join, you are praying that someone will sponsor you and ask you to an invitation only Rush. (The latter usually happens only at the alumnae level only)

PREPARE!!!!

Well I think I covered most of it in my previous blogs……….But here is one thing that I can't stress enough, make sure you triple, quadruple check your application. I have heard a lot of sad stories where people were denied based on the fact that their application was not complete. Also make sure you KNOW the person who is writing your letter of recommendation. Another horror thing I heard was people getting letters of recs from INACTIVE members. Now the members should know better than to write you a letter of rec, knowing good-n-well they are not financial.

(Financial- Members who pay dues annual to the organization) That's why it is better that you ask someone you are close with, someone you know Personally to write you letter of recommendation. I have had some prospective members ask me HERE on this blog if I would write them one. Umm….I don't know you like that. Sure you sent me an email every  now or then (and some that was the FIRST email they sent me) but I am not writing a LOR for anyone I don't personally know. Now there is one lady that I have established a relationship with since I started writing this blog four years ago. She was a  Junior in HS back then, and we have too many emails going back and forth to count. She also friended me on fb. Since then I felt as if I know her and if SHE was to ask my write her one, I might actually consider it because I feel as if I "know her."

Get your finances in order. Now do I REALLY have to tell you that? I hope not! I would hope that the moment you decided to join a greek letter organization, you started to save up. Also make sure you know that IF you are chosen, being a member can be quite expensive. I can't even tell you how much money I spent on Delta….from national dues, conventions, conferences, etc. so be prepared!

All the other stuff, is covered in my previous blogs, be there on time, dress to impress, etc…..

Good luck to you all, and HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!!! I hope to receive a ton of emails from you stating that you crossed into (insert_greek_letter) LAND!


Delta Sigma Theta National Convention Day 100yr Celebration 4 - The End…..


So I decided to sum up the rest of my time during my national convention. There is soooo much to mention during these days……. and nights, as they all seemed like a blur. I will say it was WONDERFUL attending the Social Action Luncheon especially since the entire verdict of Trayvon Martin.  Over the next few days, we had some AMAZING prominent speakers who address the Delta Body. Speakers such as Hilary Clinton, Bernice King, Attorney General Eric Holder, and many others. They made me feel PROUD of being a member of the best sorority in the world. 

It was also just going to be a few days before my ships/neos were going to go back to their "normal" lives and fly home.  (Michigan, St. Louis, Illinois) so I had to find time to spend with them. After taking care of "Delta Business" we ended up going to Howard to shop, visit, and take pictures at the "Famous" Delta Tree, and Fortitude. We met up with our Neos and had a blast! There was a whole sea of "red" taking pictures everywhere! We laughed, we cried, we shopped, and we made a ton of connections with other sorors. 

I felt bad about neglecting my husband so I cleared one day for just him and I! We went to see the Lincoln Memorial, the Martin Luther King Memorial, the White House, and everything in DC. It was wonderful and I had a blast with him. I LOVED the fact that he was able to take a picture in front of his FRAT Memorial, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. The only downfall was it was HOT, and by hot I mean HOTTER THAN I HAVE EVER EXPERIENCED (and I am in Phoenix). I had to sit down a few times from not passing out. 

Overall the weather in DC was hot. I had to stand in line for almost FOUR hours to get inside of our National Headquarters. It was worth the wait, but as I stated before, I was tired, and drenched in sweat and there were times I had to sit down from feeling like I was going to faint.

I don't think I got any rest this entire trip, and thankfully since I am a school teacher I was okay with that. (Thank GOD for summers) I think I was living off of an average of 3 hours of sleeps every day.

On the last day, I was very sad about leaving, but at the same time, I couldn't WAIT to get back home into my own bed! It has been a wonderful time/journey with my sorors, and I applaud the EXEC board and everyone involved for doing an amazing job and making this a memorable convention.

Here are a few pictures to recap my last few days in DC.

Me and My Beautiful Ships  

 My Ships and a small portion of our Neos. (DS 9MM and DS. 21-Derful F.O.R.C.E.S.)


 DS. 9 MM



A small portion of my undergraduate chapter!

 NICE A Phi A Plaque at Howard
Fortitude

 My lovely Husband representing his Phrat

 Me and My Boo!!!!

 So Proud of this,,,,They named a street after us! HOW COOL!!!!


 Me in front of NHQ!

  The FOUR hour long line to get into National HQ


 I had to represent my SAI (Sigma Alpha Iota) At Howard




It's been a blast, See ya in Houston Sorors!!!!!

Sunday, December 8, 2013

National Convention Day 3

First off: Happy Anniversary Baby!!!! Today was a very special day for me, and I was hoping to spend some time celebrating the "Endless Love" (our wedding theme) that me and my husband have for each other.

As I was hitting snooze I was thinking how I sure could go for a message or I wish I was back at home so I can go to a spa for some relaxation. I have been living off of a minimum of 3 1/2 hours of sleep. At any rate, as I  crawled out of bed, I wanted to hit my darling husband who was sleeping next to me as he hugged the covers....Snoring......BOO! I got dressed in my White excited for today's event kissed my snoring hubby and headed downstairs to the lobby to join other Choir Sorors as we waited for a cab to take us to the convention center.

Without going into specifics, the Opening Ceremony was beautiful, I enjoyed every second of it. We sounded great, and by the end we had six brand new sorors join our illustrious sisterhood!  They are:

Dr. Tererari Trent
Angela Bassett
Paula Madison
Susan Taylor
Suzan D. Johnson-Cook
Lisa Jackson


I had to leave the ceremony earlier than expected because I needed to get to my Undergraduate Chapter Meet up Luncheon. I have been planning this for months and I was praying that it would all work out in the end. Thankfully, one of my chapter soror's uncle was gracious enough to allow us to use his Bonus Room in his Condo for the meetup. The catered food was awesome and the turnout was amazing! We laughed, cried, sung,  prayed, reminisced about the good ole days, and how our Chapter is the BEST chapter around. We did line introductions and said a few words about our individual pledge lines. It was wonderful to see my Big Sisters, My Spec, My Neo's and the babies of the chapter. When everything ended, I ended up getting ready to go BACK to the convention center to take care of "Delta Business."

Later on that evening, hubby and I got dressed, and ready to go to the Signature Gala! We had a wonderful time listening to different artists. Here is a re-cap of what I was able to capture from that wonderful evening…..










Once we left We out to Delta Club, and I was EXHAUSTED! So I decided to call it a night and crawl into bed. I  FINALLY fell asleep around 4am…..