Tuesday, November 17, 2015

More Than Just Strolls, Calls, Hand Signs, and Colors

Today was a day I decided to reflect on the meaning of true sisterhood, and how I feel about being a member of one of the Top African-American Organization. As I rolled out of bed this morning, I geared myself up for the days events. First Delta Chapter meeting of the year, first Sigma Alpha Iota Chapter E-Board meeting of the year, and the first meeting of ASTA. When I decided to join a sorority, I had my heart set on wanting to join the ranks of an organization that was about Sisterhood, giving back to the community, and making a difference. Participating in Greek Step Shows, Going to Parties connecting with sorors from across the globe for me is just the "icing on the cake."

When I was a college freshman, watching the Greeks on the yard was an amazing site to see.  The Alpha's stepping in their Black and Gold, AKA's looking pretty and meticulous in their pink and green, the Q's stepping harder than ANYONE with dog tags around their necks, and hopping carrying on to the infamous "Atomic Dog", and so on...... Although, to some, this is their first introduction to Greek Life, that was not the case for me.

The reason for this post is to state that being a member of a BGLO is more than just strolls/struts, calls, hand-signs, and colors. Most of these "traditions" are considered unofficial and did not come into existence until decades AFTER the organizations was founded. What prompts this post was after when I found myself speaking to a group of young collegiate who were stating their reasons why they wanted to join the various Greek organization. I have heard everything from, "they are the best steppers on campus, they get big "play" (I didn't even know they still use this word) at parties. They go on to say other Greek Orgs on campus will notice them.  They want to be a part of the pretty girls; they seem so cool and down to earth, etc. Never once did I hear, I want to join because they have the highest GPA on campus, they won student organization of the year, they love the community service projects that they are currently involved in, etc. I find this terribly funny because it never fails, when it comes down to the interview process, their answers change.

If you are joining at the collegiate level, I get it! Trust Me! Getting admired on campus by your peers, standing out in a crowd because of those letters.  But being a member of a Black Greek Letter Org is more than just the college experience. What is life like after you graduate? For the first few years, you may find yourself going back to your school to connect with people that are still there. Your prophytes that pledged you, or your neos that you pledged. You want to keep it cute at your school's step shows, homecoming, reunions, etc.  Hey, I get it! I have been there. Or you might find yourself NOT going back for several years because you are trying to secure a job, career, and start your adult life. Student loans are knocking HARD at your door six months after you graduated, so you trying to make sure you, you have a job to make that first of many payments. Some members of BGLOs continue to serve in their organizations, and some take a break for financial reasons. (As I have stated before, being a financial member in a BGLO can be pricey, no need to sugar coat it)!

Now can you have fun afterward?  Absolutely!

Monday, September 7, 2015

Sister, Sister Greek Episode


I came across this episode online, and it brought back SO MANY MEMORIES! I will never forget when it first aired. I was in college, and I had my VCR (YES VCR) set to tape all of the Sister, Sister episodes. I was staying in the same dormitory hall as my boyfriend (Now hubby) at the time, and since he didn't have a TV, I gave him my TV and VCR since I spent a lot of time in his room. I stayed on a floor above him, and my roomy had TV and he was an RA (Residential Assistant) with a single room. My roommate had a TV, so I had problem allowing him to use my TV and VCR.

At any rate Sister, Sister uses to come on Sundays on tbis particular night I went to a Sigma Alpha Iota Rush so I didn't have time to watch the episode when it aired. The next Morning I came downstairs to my boyfriend's room to watch Sister, Sister, and I started to scream when I saw those BEAUTIFUL letters across the screen. Delta Sigma Theta. My poor husband almost fell out the bed (HE was still sleeping, and didn't realize I was in the room) from my screaming. I was like OMG, A Greek episode. You have no idea how many times I watched this episode and kept it on tape. I even went as far as taking the taps off the VCR tape to ensure that I wouldn't accidently erase the tape. According to my husband, I am SUCH as Greek-head. (He has been calling me that for YEARS)

I love this episode and want to share it with you! It brought back SO many https://youtu.be/M1F0lBnsnkE of me sitting on my hubby's bed back in college, grinning from ear to ear. I just KNEW that Tia and Tamarra were going to pledge a Greek letter org while they were at Pepperdine University. I guess I was wrong.          

Sunday, September 6, 2015

If these are your reasons for joining a Greek Letter Organization.......Just... Don't

Part I

People have their agendas of why they join several organizations.  If these are one of the reasons for why you want to join a Greek Letter Organization, then, just, Don't!

1. Joining ABC or XYZ Org will make me popular. NOT! Joining any organization will NOT make you popular, no matter HOW popular the group is on campus. Being popular should not be a reason for joining ANY org. Some people fall into the trap of choosing an org based on their popularity status on campus. I have said this in my previous posts, and I don't think I can say it enough. Just because a Greek org is poppin on your campus, does not MEAN it's poppin everywhere else in the US. You want to make sure you evaluate your reason of why you want to join.

2. Pink and Green, are my FAVORITE colors, so it is destined for me to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha.  Or I HATE the color Blue, so Zeta is completely out! Now What Now????  Yes, I have heard this before. Although the colors were chosen for each org for a particular reason, this should NEVER be a determining factor on you joining or not joining a Greek letter org. My BEST friend is an AKA and her favorite color is and ALWAYS have been RED! YES, RED!  Although I am a Delta, I have a lot of Pink, Purple, Blue, Green, and Yellow in my wardrobe! Don't join any org based on their colors, that's just silly!

3. I will get some major play from the fraternities members (or sorority members) if I become Greek. Ummm.....I know PLENTY of GREEKS that have dated and MARRIED their spouses who were NOT Greek. I don't know why anyone would think they have to become Greek to get noticed by other Greeks. When I started to date my boo, he was not Greek. I was not Greek. Sure he wanted to become an Alpha. However, I fell in love with him because of who he WAS as a person.

4. I want to step, and everyone knows that XYZ are the BEST steppers on campus. *Crickets* Now what now????? It reminds me of an old episode of "A Different World" when Kim was pledging Whitley's organization, and when asked why they wanted to join, one of the pledgees answered "Cause no one Steps like the......" Joining ANY organization should not be based on how the org steps on campus, or how many step shows they have won in the past. Now for those that know me personally, knows that I LOVE to step! I mean LOVE, LOVE, LOOOOOVEEE to step, however, to step never even crossed my mind when I decided I wanted to join my org. It wasn't until AFTER I joined that I realized my enjoyment of stepping on a stage. Stepping didn't become popular until the 80's and newsflash, these Greek Letter Orgs had existed Waaaayyyy before stepping became famous. Nowadays you don't even have to join a Greek Letter Org to step. SEVERAL groups step. So if you just want to step, just enter one of them.

5. Joining XYZ will help me land a job or a career. Okay, although I must admit that having these connections will at times get you in the door, at the end of the day, YOU still have to prove yourself.

6. Your Dad, Grandfather, Cousin, and Uncle are Alphas. Or your Mom, Aunt and best friend are Deltas. My next door neighbor is a Zeta Ummm Okay????? Just because you have a few people in your family that are in this organization, doesn't mean you need to pledge the same Greek Letter Org, or better yet pledge at all.  I have personally witnessed family members telling their loved ones that they NEED to join their org, or if they pledge anything, it must be their org.  Case in point, don't join a Greek Letter Org so you can fit in at your family reunions, or do it because you feel it will bring you and your family closer together.

There are several other reasons on WHY YOU SHOULDN'T join a Greek Letter org that I will talk about in another post, but I felt that I should highlight a few reasons. Joining any organization requires time, money, and most important commitment! So before you decide to join, THINK....What are the real reasons for why you want to join?

Hope you had a nice Labor Day Weekend!

Hello Out There!!!!!

Hey Everyone,

It seems like it's been forever since I have blogged, so I felt as if I should reach out to check on you guys. Things are going well on my end; I am just busy, busy, busy!!!!! I am enjoying my career as a teacher (I teach orchestra, chorus, musical theater, and steel pan). This is my second year teaching in a different school district, and although it is an entirely different demographic that I am used to, I LOVE IT! I LOVE my students, and more importantly I am blessed to be teaching only about five mins from my house. Don't get me wrong I miss my old students SO MUCH, and thankfully they still keep in contact with me. They will ALWAYS be my babies, and it's great that now and then I receive a text from them asking me how things are going on my end.

Okay, so NOW back to the reason I have decided to blog! I really miss blogging to my perspective Greek family! My sorority is about to start up again, and I am ready to serve as best as I can as a member. I am entering my second year as my chapter's corresponding secretary, and I love it! The only thing I hate is my current and past hectic schedule has prevented me from getting more involved, and I am hoping that it will change shortly.

So what's new with you all? I have received several comments from some of you about being nervous about entering college life as freshmen, and how you want to make a great first impression on campus and so on. I am praying that a lot of you have a great and successful school year. Just a few thoughts I want to put out there:

Your priority should be your academics. Yeah, I know I probably sound like your parent, but it's true. If you are an entering freshman, things can be a bit overwhelming for you especially if you are attending an institution away from home. Your first year is SO important regarding securing a good, solid GPA, so I have three words, DON'T! BLOW! IT!!!!! You can still have fun, and enjoy your freedom of being in college, but do not allow your academics to suffer.

2. Get involved! Scope out the Student's activities building (if you have one) and find out which activities you want to join. This can range from Student Government, Gospel Choir, Black Student Union/Organization, etc. It's best to start to get your name out there, so people know who you are.

3. Be careful on the company that you keep. You want to be mindful on who you are hanging out with on a daily basis.  Remember the saying "Birds of a feather??""" Very true. You might not

Saturday, March 14, 2015

25/50 Year Celebration!!!!

Happy Sunday Readers!

Last week was a busy week for me. Other than my normal full-load school schedule, I was excited that my chapter was attending our annual Founders Day Celebration. Another local chapter in my area was hosting the event, and our guest speaker was our National President, Dr. Walker. I was an incredible event, and I love the feeling of being surrounded by my beloved sorority sisters.

The two best part of the weekend's event for me was the Dr. Walker's speech, and watching sorors receive recognition of being a part of the sisterhood for 25 and 50 years.  For some reason, as they walked up to the podium to receive their plaque, I became emotional. What an honor. What a joy. I can't wait until I can celebrate 25 years in being a member of one of the greatest organizations. I have always enjoyed being a part this wonderful sisterhood.

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Age Ain't Nothing But a Number.....

Aaliyah was correct when she first came out with this hit. (Oh how I miss her so) Age ain't  not nothing but a number. I have received a ton of request from prospective members asking what is the "AGE LIMIT" of joining an a BGLO. Truth be told, there isn't an age limit.

UNDERGRAD- A friend of my older sister joined Alpha Kappa Alpha her sophomore year in college. Mind you she went to college at age 16, so when she became a member of AKA, she was only 17 years old. Some felt she was too young, but it's all a matter of opinion. On the flip side, I had stated before that when I joined my respected organization, one my ships (line sisters) was in her 30s. My point is, you are never too old, or too young to join an organization. Now there may be some challenges if you want to join being older at the undergrad level. For example, some people can't handle being around, people younger than them. Imagine joining a BGLO with a bunch of 18, 19, and 20-year-olds? And you are in well in your 30s? Some of the complaints you may hear going through your process may seem stupid, frivolous, and dumb. TO YOU THAT IS! Remember you were once their age. So breaking up with boyfriends, or having a fight with a roommate, or a parent may seem small to you, but it's EVERYTHING to them.  If you find out you can't deal with their growing problems, then maybe you should hold off joining an organization until graduate chapter.

People wanting to join at undergrad level that are in their late 20's 30's and 40's are becoming more and more common now, simply because people are going back to school in their later years. So don't allow your age to deter you from joining, as long as you have an understanding that the people you will be pledging with could be a decade or so younger than you. As long as that doesn't bother you, then you should be ok.

GRAD- I think the oldest person I have seen that pledge an alum chapter was a gentleman that was well in his 60's. So at this level, age doesn't matter.

I hope this answers your questions and puts your mind at ease.

Until Next Time,



Monday, January 19, 2015

What is Sisterhood???

Being a part of one of the LARGEST Black Greek Letter Organizations, I am asked this question quite often. How does it feel to be a member of an organization based on sisterhood? What does it mean? Is it all what people say it's "cracked up to be?"

When I became a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. I instantly gained several "sisters" from my chapter.  I bonded with these ladies for many days, and many nights which allowed me to get to know them on a "personal" level. We learned each other habits, our wants,  likes, dislikes, and bonded over the love of becoming members of this excellent organization. We laughed together, cried together, argued together, complained together, prayed together, ate together, went to school together, studied together, and learned together. We never judged each other, and we were there to help each other when needed. I would NEVER trade my experience or my journey to this beautiful sisterhood for anything in the world. Our bond is like no other, and we will stick to each other until the end. Even after we graduated and started our adult lives, I know that whenever I need ANY of them, they are there for me. What I especially love about the sisterhood we have, is whenever there is a wedding, baby shower, or even an anniversary, when we get together it's like we never left each other's side. The last time I was with my beloved chapter members was when one of our neo's got married in Chicago last May. Two of my ships got hotel rooms together, and when we all got together, we turned into those giddy 19/20-year-old girls that we once were in college. Reminiscing about college life, our bonds, our process, and the overall Delta experience was fantastic.  Being an adult now with most of us are married with children, and meaningful careers which make it hard for us to connect with each other often. However when we get together, it's like we haven't skipped a beat. That is the real bond of sisterhood/brotherhood. I know if I ever found myself in a bind, I have several sorority sisters I can call, and they would be there for me in a heartbeat. THAT is a true sisterhood.

I love seeing my hubby get together with his fraternity members from his home chapter. They laugh and joke about their experience of Alpha life as well. One great thing about being married to someone who is also a member of a Black Greek Letter Organization is "they get it." They understand the bond that is shared amongst the members. They realize that although as husband and wife we share everything, but the road to XYZ land is one thing that is an extraordinary thing that is NEVER shared outside of members of the chapter.

Does sisterhood/brotherhood exist only at the undergraduate level? NO! This experience is also shared at the graduate level as well. My best friend just became a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. a few years ago, and the love and bond that she shares with her line sisters/shippies reminds me so much of how it was when I pledged over a decade ago. They have PJ parties, road trips, celebrate  each other's birthdays, etc. If anything I would say that I am a little envious because when I pledged in undergrad, I was made by members who were from Chicago, St. Louis, Wisconsin, and other states. When it was time for graduation, they all either went back home to start their careers, moved out of state for graduate schools, went into the military or moved out of the country. With my BFF, she joined an Alumnae Chapter in the suburbs of Chicago they are much older (obviously), and they are still together in the Chicago-Land area. Seeing her pictures on Facebook made me realize how blessed she was to have her ships/home chapter within reach.

Although I grew up in a large family, and I had two blood sisters already, I enjoyed expanding my family by joining Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc.

Whatever organization you are interested in joining, have comfort in knowing that IF you are accepted, you will now have a large circle of new sisters and brothers you can count on. And that my dear friend is a BEAUTIFUL thang!

Stay Blessed!