Friday, July 7, 2017

My Delta Treasures!!!!!

Happy Summer Everyone!!!!

I can't believe it's the second week of July, and in a few weeks, I will be back in school.  One exciting event that I am looking forward to is our National Convention in Las Vegas. I am all registered and ready to meet, connect, reconnect, with sorors. I promise to post a recap after convention is over. In the meantime, I came across these beauties before hitting the vendors at Vegas. Usually I do some "Major Damage" when I attend NC (National Convention) so I was thrilled when I came across these beauties. I wanted to share these finds with you.

I can't wait to pack up my clothes in these. DST suitcases. When I first saw them, it was LOVE at first sight. The only thing that will make this perfect is buying a cover for the larger suitcase. I have decided NOT to bring the larger suitcase. I am afraid that it may get scratched up in route to Vegas. I will however, be bringing the smaller carry on suitcase. My hubby asked me if I was not willing to travel with the larger suitcase, why would I purchase it? I explain to him that I only paid for the larger suitcase, and the smaller carry-on was free.  I will be using the larger suitcase at times when we would be driving out of town. I am not taking any chances of these beauties getting scratched up. 

When I first saw these clutches, I could NOT decided on which one to get. The quality was impeccable, and what I loved about about these clutches are you can dress them up with a LBD, or down with some cute jeans. I ended up buying ALL of them. I can't wait to rock them.

I love this bracelet! After watching the new movie "Wonder Woman," When I saw this bracelet, I just HAD to have it 

The Vendor gave me this CUTE compact mirror as a free gift with my order. (HOW SWEET). I love how it was packaged in this beautiful velvet-y pouch. With this compact mirror, I can always make that my makeup is on point, and if I need to refresh my lips with lip gloss. 

When I saw another soror rock this with her outfit, I just HAD to have it.  Although you can purchase them separately, I had to get BOTH of them. They come in two different colors (Gold and Silver) and I opted to get the silver. One has pearls, and one does not have pearls. Paired together, they look amazing.  I can't wait to wear them with my suits, or my Delta Blazer!

Saturday, April 29, 2017

Welcome to the Sisterhood and Brotherhood!!!!

                                                            Sisterhood by Women of Soul -D Glenn Daniel

Hello Everyone Out there! 

It's that time again. My timeline, twitter feed, Instagram is FILLED with pictures of people fresh off the sands.  So far I have heard from 127, yes ONE HUNDRED TWENTY-SEVEN people who followed me on my blog and are now members of the Divine Nine. (Alpha, Kappa, Delta, AKA, and Zeta). This makes my heart warm. Enjoy being a Neo It's the BEST feeling in the world. Every single time I see a new member of ANY organization for that matter, it brings it all back for me. When my Big Sisters revealed that I they were no longer my Big Sisters but my sorors. When I was finally able to throw up the pyramid. When I formed my lips and did a loud Oo-oop! It was absolutely AMAZING! 

Although a lot of your have reached out to privately to inform me that you are now a "Proud Member" of ABC/XYZ, I would LOVE for you to share your excitement on this post. A lot of you have shared comments anonymously, (which is TOTALLY understandable), it would be great to see who you are. An extra bonus is to see you throwing up your organization's hand sign.

Now for those of you that didn't make it. I have created a post about this matter before, so I will just highlight a few things from a pervious post. It is okay to feel sad, mad, and confused. I would still suggest that you support the new members. You never know, those new members MAY be the very same people who will vote Yay, or Nay for you to come through their chapter. It's important that you show the new members your support. Let them know that although YOU are indeed happy for them. If it's too much for you to bear, then that's fine to. Crying helps, writing your feelings down in a journal, or diary help, or even talking your feelings out with someone that you trust. Getting over the fact that you are not a member of the sorority/fraternity that you dream up will take some time. Take all the time you need. My advice to you? Don't give up. It may not be your time now, but you never know what the future holds. 

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Pledging is Expensive, and Membership is Even More Expensive.

I have said over, and over, and over, and over again that becoming a member of the Divine Nine is NOT cheap. Not cheap by NO MEANS! When I realized I wanted to become a member of my organization, I started to do my research. I had no clue how much it would cost for me to pledge. Was it $300? $500? $1000? $2000? The information wasn't available and at that time I had no CLUE that I had family members who were Greek. So I was left in the dark. Since I only worked during the summer in college,  I saved. I saved, and saved, and saved. I went as far as opening up a savings account at my mom's bank and put at least 50 percent of my  earnings into a savings account every pay day. I was on a full music scholarship at my school, and I did not want to take out any loans. Thankfully I didn't have to. As soon as you realize you want to pledge, I would suggest that you start saving. Save as much as you can.  Some of my sorority sisters took out loans to pay for the initiation fee. Some had family members who paid the fee. Some like me, worked and paid their own way.

Thankfully I saved up more than enough money. No worries there. However the buck does not stop at your initiation fee. After you become a member, you will still need money for your annual membership dues. College dues are substantially a lot LOWER than Alumni/Alumnae dues. (Thank GOODNESS FOR THAT). As a member of an undergraduate chapter, there are still other things to consider that costs money. Regional Conferences, Collegiate Retreats, National Conventions, Membership Training, etc. All of this cost....Yup, you guessed it, MONEY! More than likely you will need to travel to these conferences/conventions which also costs MONEY. Membership in these organizations can be expensive. Some of my sorors have asked, what is the benefit of going to these conferences/conventions. Well, the benefit is knowing how the organization works on a Regional/National Level. You are also allowed to get your voice heard, and there is the sisterhood/fellowship side of it. I have met so many sorors from across the globe at National Convention. My first convention was in my hometown, Chicago,  Il in 2000. I met a ton of sorors back then that I still keep in touch with. They include sorors from California, Texas, Hawaii, Alaska, and Washington D.C.  Not only did I learn a lot of Delta from the business side of things at the national level, I had a ball. From the welcome event, the step-show, Celebrity Gala, the after hour parties, etc. Let's just say that I did't get ANY sleep during this time. For one it was my FIRST national convention. PLUS, I was brand spanking new in the organization, just crossing a few months before.

   My Ship and I at our first National Convention In Chicago

When my husband and I first got married, he was stressing out on what to get me for a wedding present. He asked me if there was anything that I wanted, and without giving it a second thought, I told him that I wanted to purchase Diamond-Life membership with my sorority. It as $1500. That was a LOT OF MONEY for us back then
considering that I JUST left college with NO job, and he just started his brand new job. I told him that there was Delta allowed its members to make a payment plan, so all I would need to do was sign up. Thankfully I did. Two years later, Delta did away with lifetime memberships.  I was able to jump on the last train before it left the track.

When  I was no longer a college student, I transferred my membership and became a Membership at Large. This allowed me to still register for Conventions and Conferences, as well as still be in the "know" in terms of Delta however I did not have the benefit of fellowshipping with Sorors within a chapter. When I made my LAST Diamond-Life payment, I was ecstatic!!!!! It was HARD at first, but well worth it in the end. Since I no longer had to make payments, I used that money to pay for Regional Conferences and National Conventions. Registration fees, flights, hotels, and food all cost money. Not to mention, you might want to have a special stash of money to shop at the vendors. When I went to our Centennial Convention in Washington D.C. I spent well over $4000 for that trip. (Flights, Registration, Hotels, etc). As I stated before, It costs MONEY to be in these organizations.

The point of this post? Keep that in mind as you are going out for membership. I have witnessed too many times where people who are dying to become members of the Divine Nine, they get it, work HARD during their time in the undergrad chapter (or the first couple of years at the alumnae level), and then......NOTHING! They are no longer interested in paying dues, and/or being active. Now I get it LIFE HAPPENS! I've said this before if crossed at the undergrad level, once you graduate from college, your first priority might not be to become active in an alumni/alumnae chapter. You need to find a job, or you are continuing your education at the graduate level, and overall you are trying to settle into adulthood. In today's society people are worried about layoffs, job security, bills, family crisis, healthcare, etc., so paying dues and/or attending a Regional Conference/National Convention is just not a priority for them. Totally Understandable! What irks me is when people that no longer wants to pay their dues, and complain that their organization is too expensive, YET at the drop of a hat, they are the main person front a center at a step-show, or pari'd up from Head to toe at their school's homecoming.

To perspective members- I will say this now, MEMBERSHIP in ALL of these organizations are expensive. EXPENSIVE! I just want to ensure that you know this now before making a lifetime commitment.

To Neos: Make sure you save, save, save. I think it's beneficial that you attend a regional conference AND A National Conference/Boule so you can see the inner workings of your organization. This is also a great way to network, fellowship, and connect with sorority/fraternity members from all over the globe. Personally, I feel you are doing yourself a disservice if you do NOT attend a convention/boule.

In summary, my advice to all is to SAVE! SAVE! SAVE! 

Tuesday, March 7, 2017

Ring, Why don't you,,,,,,RING!!!!!!

You Attended Rush
You Submitted Your Packet
You had your Interview
And wait, And Wait, 
AND WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This part of the process is torture! Every time the phone rings, your heart skips a beat. You double to check to make sure the ringer is turned all the way up on your phone. Back when I was waiting for the phone to ring, I had to make sure the phone was not OFF the hook. My girlfriend and I (who also applied) went to Denny's to grab a bite to eat. We were BOTH nervous as all get out. We both figured, no sense of being nervous on an empty stomach. We ate, talked about being line sisters, laughed, and then rushed home to make sure we wouldn't miss our phone call. 

Look, I get it. The waiting period is brutal. A day can seem like a week. A week can seem like a month and 2 weeks can seem like a year.  My advice? Keep yourself active. If you are in undergrad then study for that test, or put your head in those books.  Go to the gym. Go out with our girlfriends/guy-friends. If you are applying for the alumni/alumnae level, keep yourself occupied with work, or your family.  Keep yourself busy, Busy, BUSY! TRUST ME, once you get that phone call that you have been "Chosen" for membership, your time as you know it will be limited. So enjoy the free time while you can. 

A constant question that I get often is how long do I have to wait. Well, it depends. How many people were at your rush? Were there a lot of prospects there? Why does this matter? Look at this way. Let's say there were 300 people at the Rush.  250 applied for membership and turned in their application. After going through all of the apps, 225 qualify for an interview. That's a lot of interviews. Once the interviews are over, the members need to narrow it down to prospective members. There are a lot of factors involved, for example does the organization have a legacy clause?  Does the College /University have a cap/limit of how many prospective members the org can accept? This all takes time. Good luck to all of you, and once you cross into Greek-Land, come back share your story with others. I have also been known to send "Neophyte" gifts to new members, so you NEVER know. :) wink!

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

Got Questions???? I Got Answers! (Part I)

Hello out there! It's been a while since I last updated my blog! Things have been hectic with school and all, but now that things are winding down, I am able to answer a few of your questions that you posed on my blog.

1. Q. Now that I am in graduate school, does that mean I can no longer apply for membership into a Black Greek Letter Organization?
A. No, that does not mean you cannot apply. Most BGLO have Alumnae membership intake. This requires that you hold a Bachelor's Degree from a College and University and you have graduated with the minimal, yet required GPA needed for membership. I have many friends, and sorors who have went through the membership intake process at the Alumni/Alumnae level.

2. Q. I am the first person in my family to attend college. How can I show interest so the members on the campus know that I am interested in joining their organization?
A. I have answered this question time and time again. The BEST way for the members to know you are interested in joining their organization is by attending their events. Trust me, after while they will notice your face, and realize that there may be interest there on your part.

3. Q. I am BEYOND the average undergraduate age. (Over 25). Do I still have a chance of becoming member through undergrad?
A: Yes, As long as you meet the requirements, you have chance of becoming a member. None of the BGLO discriminates based off of age, race, or religion.

4. Q. If my mom, aunt and sister are all members of XYZ org,  can I automatically become a member of the same organization?
A: If you have family members that are members of the organization who wishes to become a member of, then I would suggest that you speak with them. All BGLO have certain rules in terms of "legacies" Your best bet is to talk to your family member to see if the organization they belong to honor legacies.

5. Q. Who can write my letter of recommendation?
   A. This can be best answered at the informational/RUSH. At the information/RUSH they will go over the details about who can write your letter of recommendation. Side note: I would recommend that you ask for a LOR from a person who you know PERSONALLY! I have been asked to write over 10 letters of recommendations, and how many have I written? TWO! 

6. Q.  What happens if the chapter that I want to join is suspended or just coming from a suspension? How can become a member after the suspension is up?
A. Generally speaking most BGLOs have it set up where the nearest Alumnae/Alumni Chapter is in charge of bringing back the chapter. The best advice I can give you is to keep your eyes and ears open. If a chapter is coming from a suspension and the Alumnae/Alumni chapter voted to revive the chapter, trust me you will know about it through fliers, social media, programs, social activities, community service opportunities, etc.

7. I want to join XYZ but they have never had a chapter on my campus. Can I still join? 
A: That is indeed a possibility however it's a long process. First, you need to get an approval from the College/University. You also need to reach out to the nearest chapter in the area. (Alumnae/Alumni Chapter). Starting a new chapter is not only time-consuming, but VERY expensive. 

8. Do I have to "Step" to join?
A: I get this question quite often. No you are not required to "Step"

9. I do not have the required GPA because I experienced a family tragedy, I took a class that was too hard which killed my GPA, or my teacher gave me a grade that I did not deserve. What can I do?
A: Nothing. No, let me take that back, FOCUS ON YOUR GRADES! I have said this before, and I will say it again.  You are not in college to pledge. You are in college to get a degree. So I will once again say to focus on your grades for now. If you are able to pull them up, then, and only then, should you focus on pledging an organization. 

10. Q. I can't find anyone from the organization that I want to join to write me a letter of recommendation. What can I do?

A: Nothing at this point. Take a year to get to know the members from the organization. This can vary from attending events, performing community service events with the orgs, etc. Most of the BGLOs requires it's prospective members to receive a letter of recommendation from one of its members. So I would suggest that you get to know them. Oh and this doesn't have to be from the chapter that you are seeking membership from. This could include your past teachers, members of your church, neighbors, etc. If you do not know any members, then you are not putting yourself out there enough. 

If you have any other "burning" questions, drop a comment here and I will try to answer them in my Part II

Saturday, December 31, 2016

So long, Farewell, Auf Wiedersehen, Good Night (2016)

This year has been one for the books. An upset election, racial tension rising, and for me personally, my father lost his battle with Dementia. As I sit here and reflect on 2016, I can't say that I am sad to see it leave. I am anxiously awaiting to see what 2017 has to offer.

I pray for you, our country, and President Obama and his family as he leaves office. He did the best he could with the challenges of having a Republican Senate, and House. Although I am sad to see him leave, I am grateful to know that he can get some much-needed rest, and can take Mrs. Obama on a and I quote "Much needed and long overdue vacation."

I know a lot of you are preparing for Spring Semester, Rush, in hopes of getting picked to join the organization of your choice. I wish you all the best with that. As I have stated on my previous blogs, just be yourself, and I am sure you will be fine. 

On another note, one of my favorite Delta Vendors, TIG:MIR is closing its doors. I am SO sad. Ironically I just placed a HUGE order to the vendor 2 weeks ago. Most of her stuff that is generally $50-$60 a piece is now $5-$20 each. I went back and stacked up on a LOT of items. I think I bought ALL of her remaining pieces in like EVERY.SINGLE.COLOR! When she made the announcement on New Years Eve, I was crushed. After getting out of my feelings (LOL) I started to buy, buy, buy! And to get stuff that was originally 60 bucks and they are now FIVE BUCKS? Girl BYE! As I stated I snatched up every color, in TWO DIFFERENT SIZES (in case I lose weight, LOL).  I ordered $700 worth of items for.....Drumroll please.......$120! WINNER!!!!! Here is a preview of some of the items I purchased. I can't wait to rock 'em this summer.

Sunday, December 4, 2016

Welcome Back To my Initiating Chapter!!!!

Bonjour Mon Ami!

I am excited to announce that after a SEVEN year hiatus, my chapter is back on the yard. 26 young ladies crossed the sands into Delta-Land at my alma mater.  I was sad that I wasn't able to see them, HOWEVER I was ecstatic that my husband's ship (line brother) was able to attend and live streamed it for me to see. A lot sorors who were initiated in my home chapter all came down for their initiation and their NIP (New Initiate Presentation). It was a beautiful sight to see. Seeing them on center stage took me back to when I crossed. I was also able to see my prophytes, my neos, and my line sisters as well. I cannot wait to return back to my home chapter to meet the neos in person.

One of my prophyte's daughter just became a delta s well. She just chartered a BRAND new chapter. I am so excited for them. I am sure it took a lot hard work, and dedication.

So, if you are in a position where there is not a chapter on your yard due to either suspension, lack of interests for many years, or there was never a chapter on the yard, don't give up! With persistence, a lot of hard work and dedication, you can make it happen!