Sunday, April 10, 2016

Coming Soon to a Campus Near You.................

I love this time of year......April is always the month when my social media accounts is filled with pictures of New Sorors/Sistergreeks/Fraternity crossing over into Greek-land. This weekend alone, I have seen over 15 Delta Chapters post pictures of their new members. My heart is warm. I also received email msgs from people who have followed my blog send me pictures of themselves in their paraphernalia. (18 Deltas, 5 AKAs, 2 Zetas, 3 Alphas, 1 Omega, and 3 Kappas to be exact so far). Although this is a time for celebration, and happy tears for some, this is also a time of sadness, and/or bitterness for others. This can be due to not making "line" receiving a letter of rejection, and not understanding how she made it and you didn't. I have addressed this in my blog before, so I won't rehash what I have already stated, but just remember there is always next time. Not making "line" the first time is NOT the end of the world....It will just make the time when you DO make line, that much sweeter, TRUST ME!

If you have a friend/family member that just crossed into GreekLand, congratulate them. Tell them you are genuinely  happy for them.  You never know, that may be YOU next year. :)

Saturday, February 20, 2016

Founders Day Celebration.....

I was so excited today to attend my chapter's founders day celebration. It was fun, festive, and educational. Originally were going to have Soror Daphne Maxwell-Reid as the guest speaker, but unfortunately she had and emergency and she had to cancel at the last minute.  Thankfully we were able to secure Past Second Vice President Chelsea Hayes. She was AWESOME!!!! 

The entire day was filled with positive energy, love and sisterhood. We also had an opportunity to give back to the community. Our Community Service Project; Blessing Bags. We were able to put together over 150 bags for the homeless and those re-entering society following incarceration.

Sorors hard at work!

The Finished Product

Friday, February 5, 2016

Thank You!!!!

Happy Friday Everyone.....

These last few weeks have been hectic on my end, but I am so happy it's FRIDAY!!!! YAY! (Praise Break) I enjoy my weekends. I will especially enjoy NEXT WEEKEND! My darling husband told me to pack my bags, take Friday off and we are going on a mini-vaca for V-day.  It's been a while since we have been able to do a couple's getaway, so this is long-overdue.

I had to make a post tonight, to simply say "Thank You." I realized on this evening that this blog has reached one million views. WOW! I am so grateful that people are finding my posts interesting and filled with information.  When I started this blog, I never dreamed of it reaching that many views to be quite honest. There are other BGLO blogs out there, as well as YouTube videos I'm sure, however you all made this possible.

So.......I am taking special requests....What other things would you like for me to discuss on this blog?

Friday, January 22, 2016

The Myth of Pledging Part I

Happy Friday Folks!

I hate being sick. First my oldest brother spent the Holidays with me, and he brought his California cold with him. Then my darling husband caught his cold, and NOW I caught HIS cold. Being sick is for the birds. My hope is to spend the weekend in bed, drugged up on Nyquil and feeling hopeful that I will be able to shake this cold.

I hope your new year is off to a great start. I am down 8 pounds, so I am thrilled! I decided to blog tonight about the myths about pledging. And there are plenty. So let's just dive right in.

Since I am over 25, and I am still working on my undergraduate degree, I have to wait and pledge a graduate chapter once I graduate from college.

MYTH!- I had stated before in my "Journey to Greek life" that one of my line sisters was well in her 30's when she joined. I also have a dear friend of mine that pledged Alpha Kappa Alpha with her mom! She was 19, and her mom was 43.

To join a BGLO, you need to step.

MYTH! Stepping is just a small part of being a member of a BGLO. Truth be told, I know a lot of sorors that have NEVER stepped, and/or strolled after becoming a member. It's just a perk of becoming a member, definitely not a requirement. If you feel you have two left feet, or stepping isn't your thing, don't worry about it.

I can ask anyone to write me a letter of recommendation.

MYTH! -When I was interested in becoming a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. I will never forget stumbling across "So you want to be Delta" written by BeeJae Jackson-Bulter. In her blog, she wrote that you should ONLY ask someone who personally know you. Someone who you can trust. She even went as far to say, someone, you would feel comfortable with leaving them along with your husband.

You need to give up your life while pledging....

Well, it depends. Giving up your life is relative. What do I mean by that? Learning about the organization, taking and passing the tests to gain membership, bonding with your line brothers and line sisters, takes a lot of time. If you are going through MIP at the undergraduate level, it will take a ton of your time. The only thing you will have time for is school work, studying, hopefully, a part-time job, and that's it. If you are going through MIP at the graduate level, then outside of your full-time job, children, spouse, etc.

The hardest part of pledging is ....well.....pledging.

MYTH- Everyone knows that the real work begins AFTER you join the organization.

Monday, January 18, 2016

Now that I have crossed the sands.........What's Next???

So you finally became a member of your dream sorority/fraternity. You are on cloud nine! You feel like a celebrity with everyone on social media congratulating you. People who you don't even know, now know you. They know you by name. Now, what??? What are the next steps?

Well, first I would tell you to enjoy being fresh off the sands. You are Geeked about your coming out show (Some refer to it as NIP, New Initiate Presentation). Your hair is on fleek, you all look fabulous in your outfits together, you have rehearsed and perfected the show. You can't wait to reveal yourself to your campus/community.  You earned it! You deserve it.  This is your time! Enjoy it!
How do you balance work and fun? Can you have both? Of course, you can! When I first became a Delta, I was a nerd regarding wanting to know EVERYTHING there is to know about Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. I read our ritual, page by page, cover to cover as if it was a juicy Zane novel. I wanted to find out everything about the founders, the organization, the history, etc. Sure I learned a lot when I was going through the membership intake process, but I wanted to know MORE!  I wanted to be knowledgeable before I attended my first "official" Delta meeting.

Look I get it, you're excited, passionate, you want to learn everything. You also wish to join every single committee, run for an office, and get your hands dirty.  No shame in that. I was that girl. My first year, I was on several committees, the chapter president, participated in every step show, became the step-master, and on TOP of that, I had school and a part time job. I was a bit overwhelmed but loved every minute of it.

My best advice? Take it slow. Only YOU know how much you can handle. Remember that membership in these organizations is a lifetime commitment, so there is no rush to join every committee under the sun all at once. Especially as a neophyte. Don't get me wrong, I am not telling you to get involved, but don't overwhelm yourself. The one thing that I have seen from other neophytes from various organizations including mine is they joining every committee and within five years, they are burnt out. Brace yourself. Sign up for a committee or two. Make sure the committee you DO sign up for is one that you would enjoy doing. Case in point, if you love planning, then fundraising might be your thing. Have a lot of ideas for community service? Bingo! Do you love meeting and working with people? Membership would be perfect for you.

Congratulations on your membership. Don't overextend yourself, you have a lifetime to make a difference.

Sunday, January 17, 2016


I came across this article this weekend, and I found it hilarious! I have a ton of AKA
 friends and they also found it funny as well. ENJOY!!!! 


While no group of people is a monolith, and we do not wish to stereotype the hundreds of thousands of women in these organizations, we thought we would give you a primer on how to distinguish your friends who pledged…
Not only is it the launch day of NegusWhoRead, but two of the most illustrious and noted organizations in the world also celebrate more than one hundred years of service this week.
Although every human being is unique, there are distinct characteristics that many members of sororities or fraternities share among the members of their respective organizations. 
While no group of people is a monolith, and we do not wish to stereotype the hundreds
 of thousands of women in these organizations, we thought we would give you a primer 
on how to distinguish your friends who pledged Alpha Kappa Alpha from those who are sisters of Delta Sigma Theta.
  1. AKAs always remind you that they were first.Deltas always remind you that most great creations had a first draft.
  2. The Delta was the president of the Black Student Council, Pan-Hell, the Student Government Association and The Sisterhood of Feminists.The AKA was on the dance team, the school welcoming committee, and planned the annual fashion show for the Black Student Council, Pan-Hell and the Student Government Association. When she approached the Sisterhood of Feminists about a fashion show fundraiser, they refused to take part in an activity that objectifies women’s bodies, even though they all walked the runway in the Black Student Council’s fashion show.
  3. Both went natural, but:
    The AKA gets hers blown out and straightened every week, although for special occasions she will get a shoulder-length sew-in, but only if the hairdresser 
    uses Remy #9 hair.
  4. The Delta grew dreadlocks.
  5. The AKA dated the star of the Basketball team.
    The Delta tutored the star of the Basketball team — until she got tired of him trying to holla at her during every study session–even though she kept reminding him that his AKA girlfriend was her bestie.
  6. When when you go out for drinks, the AKA will order a fruity drink with so much sugar so she can’t taste the alcohol.
  7. The Delta will be taking shots.
  8. The AKA has a set of nice earrings with emeralds and pink diamonds that perfectly match an embroidered AKA sweater she bought at nationals.The Delta has 2,934 t-shirts, 563 hoodies, and 114 red dresses that match her fortitude necklace, her elephant charm bracelet, pyramid ring, DST watch and Delta shoulder tattoo…But she needs some more paraphernalia.
  9. Even when there are no other AKAs present in the room, an AKA will still represent with a “skee-wee” if called upon.
    There is no such thing as one Delta in a room.
  10. If you date a Delta, you will always be a half hour late because you had to wait for her to get ready so she can look perfect.
    If you date an AKA, you will always be a half hour late because you have to change clothes. You know she’s not going anywhere with you looking like that.
  11. AKA’s pronounce it “soar-roarrr.”Deltas pronounce it “saw-rah”
  12. Your sweet third-grade teacher was an AKA who always made you feel smart, beautiful and special… Except for that one time you acted up in class and she sent you to the principal’s office and the principal called your mama. When your mama came to the school you could swear that sweet lady was about to cry.That principal was a Delta.
  13. The AKA is a third generation legacy. Her mom was an AKA. Her grandmother was an AKA. Her great grandmother was an AKA.The Delta is a third generation legacy. Her mom was gonna be a Delta but she didn’t have the grades. Her grandmother was gonna be a Delta but she didn’t go to college. She doesn’t even know if her great grandmother wanted to be in a sorority. All she knows is that during her freshman year in college, just before her great-nana died, she whispered in her ear:“Don’t you pledge no damn AKA.”
  14. AKAs collect frogs.
    Deltas don’t actually collect elephants. It’s just that whenever a Delta has a birthday, anniversary, graduation or her auntie goes to a flea market — everyone buys her an elephant.

So there you have it. Take this information with a grain of salt, and AS A JOKE. 

Happy 108th Birthday to the women of Alpha Kappa Alpha.
And a happy 103 years of sisterhood and service to the women of Delta Sigma Theta.


Michael Harriot is a renowned spoken word poet, the host of The Black One podcast and the editor-in-chief of NegusWhoRead. He is perpetually just getting warmed up because he has no chill.