Tuesday, March 12, 2013

If First You Don't Succeed........

Brush yourself off and try again, you can dust it off and try again, try again!!!

When me and my ships came out on the GLORIOUS BEAUTIFUL day April 21st, This was the song we came out to. It was BLAZING real loud at the commons, a hang out college hot spot! Filled with a lot of people that was interested in who was "online"for Delta. Why did we choose this song? Many reasons! For one there were several of my shippies (line sisters) who tried again and again to make the Delta Line and they finally did. There were also some who tried submitted their application for Delta for MY line did not make it, and later was rocking pink and green from head to toe! There were some who didn't make my line but still wanted to be a Delta. So we felt this song was perfect in letting the yard know that if you first you don't succeed to just dry and try again.  For those of you that have never heard of this hot song made my Aaliyah, check it out below.


This week has been quite interesting! In the Greek World, BGLO Greeks and non-Greeks have been talking about the lawsuit against Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. From what is all over net, Two Young Ladies, Laurin Compton and Lauren Cofield is suing Howard University and Alpha Kappa Alpha because they felt their quite "Human Rights" were violated when they were not chosen for membership because they are legacies!  Now I have spoken about legacies before,  and how a lot of legacies feel "entitled" to become a member simply because their mom, stepmom, aunt, grandmother, etc are members.  I can't believe the mom wanted Alpha Chapter to "hold up" the pledge process until a decision was made, and her daughter was on the line. REALLY??? So you want to stall it out for the other 65 ladies who made line, so your ONE daughter can make line? Talk about selfish! Yeah I said it, just plain SELFISH!  Thankfully the chapter is still going thru their process, and in a few weeks, there will 65 brand new members of Alpha Kappa Alpha on the yard at Howard University.

Thankfully Delta Sigma Theta does not have "such a clause." In this case I can't figure out if it's the daughters who feel entitled or the mom. I say this after an interview with one of the moms and daughter discussed this in an interview this past weekend. Check it out for yourself. 


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A lot of people have been weighing in on this topic. My take on it? Why can't these young ladies just wait until AFTER they graduate from Howard and pledge Alpha Kappa Alpha Alumnae Chapter?  I can understand that they are both seniors in college, but membership in these organizations are a lifetime commitment, so why not just wait and try again then? I get it, it's ALPHA CHAPTER, the chapter of ALL CHAPTERS, but still, your AKA is not going to be any bigger or smaller if you join an Alumnae chapter right?

My husband and I and a couple of friends of ours had this debate this past weekend. As I have stated before my hubby is an Alpha, his friend is ALSO and Alpha, my friends wife is an AKA. We all pledged undergrad chapters in orgs. We had another couple join in, one who is a Zeta from an Alumnae Chapter and her husband is interested in becoming Greek as well. We all shared our thoughts on this pending lawsuit and how ridiculous it is. I mean suing because you didn't get picked? REALLY?????  Our Zeta friend stated that although she doesn't agree with the lawsuit, she can understand the anger that these ladies have. She wanted desperately to join an undergraduate chapter she wasn't able to because of some "issues" she was having in the chapter. So I asked her if she felt any "different" because she pledge Grad/Alumni Chapter and she said she has. she doesn't feel the "Love" when she goes back to his school, and she tries to connect with them, and they won't allow it. After probing a bit more, I found out that she tried to be apart of the undergraduate process when they were having membership intake. HUH??? Now What Now? All of us just looked at her like she was crazy. So I told her, that maybe because it's not her chapter, and it could be possible that they felt she was trying to be a wannabe. I then said be PROUD of your process, and stop trying to create something that isn't there. Her response was she got it, and her husband broke it down for her on how that is NOT COOL! 

But I nevertheless, I understood her point which  was at the undergraduate level at college campus, you have "chapter traditions," and get to know the chapter members more since you are all on campus together, you get to bond more with the members, etc. He went on to say, with his process, it was more learning the info, and her and her LS's have lives, jobs, family, and other more important obligations other than spending the night at the club house to go over information.  So they only got together during sessions and that's it. She went on to say, it's not just pledging at the undergraduate level, but these ladies were trying to join ALPHA chapter. Their parents joined Alpha Chapter.

While I was listening to her, I understood her point. If my daughter tried to join MY chapter and got turned down, I would a little upset. (Especially since I am VERY active in my undergrad chapter till THIS day) however I would NEVER EVER, EVER EVER EVER EVER (In my Chris Rock voice) Sue Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. What does accomplish??? Absolutely nothing, AND it can hurt her chances of ever becoming a member in the future.

So to all of my followers, if you don't make it TRY AGAIN! And to you legacies??? Don't get sue the organization because you didn't get picked! That's just plain ridiculous and you will ALWAYS and FOREVER be known as THAT GIRL! I am sure Lauren, and Laurin are really going through a lot right now on the campus at Howard University. Thankfully they are both Seniors in College, and this will all be over for them in May after waking across that stage!

After watching this video from the Huffinton post, which I will post below I think these gentlemen (A representative from Alpha Phi Alpha, Kappa Alpha Psi, and Omega Psi Phi) and this young lady (Alpha Kappa Alpha) got it right! It's just plain ridiculous!

It will be quite interesting how this all plays out! 




17 comments:

  1. I was wondering what your thoughts were regarding this lawsuit. I am a legacy and my mom and I talked about this a few nights ago. (I am not eligible to join this year)

    She told me although she would be disappointed if I never made line, she would NEVER sue the organization. I agree with you, I can't wait to see how this all pans out.

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  2. I do have dreams of becoming a part of a Greek organization, and one day those dreams will come true, but for now I continue to work on the logistics of being a part of my chosen sorority. My personal story is that I have applied for to this sorority before and I was rejected membership due to sorority requirements not being fulfilled, but it didn't stop me from wanting to be a part of the organization it made me want to work harder by becoming the ideal candidate that this sorority seeks in its members. Although this young lady fails to make line her senior year, I am pretty sure that throughout her college life, there had to be more than one line that crossed at Howard. I understand the frustration of wanting to be associated and accepted into the sorority of your dreams, but what point is made when you decide to sue them. I think pretty much she has burned her future prospective of becoming a respected member if she ever were to become a part of AKA. She will always be known as that "girl" who sued to be a member and she probably had better chances of becoming an AKA at her mother's grad chapter. Try again, if you fail get back up and try again because eventually you will make it and once you do make their starts a lifetime commitment.

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  3. I am following this story and curious as to how it will play out. I'm sure it's hurtful not to be selected as a potential member but to sue to gain membership is a bit ridiculous. By doing this I think these ladies are harming their chances of ever becoming a member. I wonder if the spring line was actually held up?

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  4. This was an entertaining post. I too am a legacy but am not eligible to join. However, I express my interest every year because I never give up hope. Despite the issues that are happening on my campus with my chapter, I will NEVER complain about not being chosen...better yet...sought out. My legacy does not determine whether or not I join the organization. My social standing, my gpa (although I don't necessarily agree with this part for several reasons), my community service background and my determination to join determines whether or not I join/get chosen. These ladies and their mother needs to realize that. And the more they keep on challenging this organization, the less their chances are in joining. They should have thought about THAT before making this move.

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  5. I want to thank you for your Blog! It's helped me in my journey towards Sisterhood in Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. On 4/13/13, I crossed the sands into Delta! So glad to finally be able to call you Soror! OO-OOP!

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  6. I have been following you on this blog for about three years! I can't even tell you how I read each and every single post, over and over and over again! I am happy to report that I am now a PROUD member of DELTA SIGMA THETA SORORITY INC! 2 times is a charm for me, the first time I was rejected and heart broken. I came back here and read your blog, and felt better. Thankfully I did not give up, and took your advice to heart. Thank you so my SOROR! Oo-oop!

    And congrats Quiet-Zone- welcome to this beautiful sisterhood! I am excited we both became members in 2013, which is an AWESOME year!

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    1. Thank you and congrats to you as well! Yes this is an awesome year to come into the Sisterhood!

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  7. You ladies give me hope that yes if you first succeed then yes try again! Congratulations to you both!

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    1. Yes, stay encouraged! An initial no, may just mean not right now. And in time it will be revealed why. If it is meant to be, it will surely come to pass! The no doesn't feel good in that moment, but remember what drew you to the organization. Continue to support the organization and when your time comes it will be a sweet experience!:-) Thank you for the Congrats!

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  8. By the grace of God I came across this blog! I was rejected from an organization and they had the probate show tonight. I cried like I have never cried before. I was so saddened that I was not chosen, but this really lifted my spirit. Thank you so much for sharing your story and providing some insight. I will dry these tears and try again. And Congrats ladies for becoming members, hopefully you will be congratulating me one day.

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  9. I don't think they should've sewed. It's not going to work out either way. She will either make the line and they are going isolate her or she just ruined her chances over all.

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  10. Alpha Kappa Alpha really needs to change that legacy clause. I personally don't think it's fair that just because you are legacy your paper work by passes the local chapter and is automatically sent to nationals. Just because your mom pledge that sorority doesn't.... well shouldn't mean you're a shoe in.

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  11. Does anyone knows what ever happened with this story? Did they ever become members? Did they win the lawsuit?

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