Devastated, heartbroken, confused, angry. These are a few choice of words that can explain how you feel at this point. You just got the letter that you were hoping for...It states, "Thank you for your interests in XYZ org, but at this time we have decided....blah, blah, blah..You stare at the letter, and you heart breaks instantly. You can't understand it, your GPA was well above requirement, you had this "vibe" that the members liked you, you felt your letter of intent was perfect. You find yourself asking, "What did I do wrong? Why was I not picked?"
You will never know why you were not chosen just because everyone's vote is confidential. And truth be told if you did not receive majority vote then you will not be receiving a letter of acceptance. I have seen some rejected members snub the orgs members, talk bad about them, and simply choose an entirely different organization to join.
Just because you received that dreadful rejection letter in the mail, does NOT mean the end of the world. As I stated before, there are many members of organizations that did NOT make it on the first, second and third try. If this organization is worth fighting for, then FIGHT FOR IT!!!! Continue your community service, joining other organizations on campus, focusing on your GPA. I am sure the tears will fall, but pick you up, dust yourself off, and move on. Harsh words I know but there is nothing you can do if you did NOT get the required votes for membership.
This is why it is IMPERATIVE that you make sure your packet it T-I-G-H-T. There are hundreds of girls/guys that want a spot, so when you look at your packet does it stand out? Do you have a lot of leadership roles, community service hours? Is your GPA well above a 3.0? Were you confident at your interview? Did you take the time to get to know the members of the organization so they felt comfortable and confident in voting for you?
This can be the case when trying out for Alumnae/Grad chapter. This is because instead of going against other college students, you are going against Doctors, Lawyers, Judges, Chemists, Professors, etc...So you need to do whatever it takes to make sure your packet stands out!
If you know a member of the chapter, then I don't see anything wrong with pulling them aside asking them advice on what they feel you should do differently the next time. Once again I would ONLY recommend this if you know that person personally.
When the new line is introduced to the campus (undergrad) or community (alum/grad) then I would congratulate them, and wish them well. I have seen so many cases where BITTER, ANGRY, prospective members talk bad about the neophytes. Here is a bit of advice, they did not and DO NOT control who gets picked. I have heard it all from "how did she make it, my GPA is higher than hers, or he is a nobody on campus, etc...Remember that talking bad about these "members" will only hurt you in the long run, ESPECIALLY if you still desperately want to become a member. Case in point, these new members NOW have the voting power for the next line, so keep that in mind.
Not getting chosen on the first try is NOT the end of the world. If you are not a Senior, and you are attempting to go through MIP at the undergrad level, then you have a chance of working again if they have another rush before you graduate. If you were not picked at the grad/alumnae level, then you can always try again when they have another Rush. I know this can be disheartening because most alumnae/grad chapters do not have MIP that often. With that being said, use this time to get to know the members of the chapter you just submitted your application for, continue to volunteer your services, and try again.
I have seen many members who were rejected from the organization of their choice and FINALLY cross those sands a year, or in some cases years later. So just because you were NOT picked on the first try does not mean you will NEVER get chosen. Keep at it, and eventually you will find yourself appreciating your journey even more, because of the long hard road it took for you get there.
Ciao for now!!!!
I pledged AKA in the 80s, and the most important things I gained were friendships, love, team building, service to all mankind (Deltas, Zetas, Sigma Gammas........), and how to well represent a classy Black Women. There is no reason why one should not view Legacy Clauses negatively. In order for this to exist, it is necessary for the Soror who wants her offspring to have the legacy advantage has to be an exceptional Soror. This means for 2 years a great amount of money is pledged as well as service and time. Moreover, Sorors' family members are the greatest supporters to the cause ("THE WORK"-not just the glam). So, to all the Legacy haters-get over it for it has been earned!;-)
ReplyDeletehello, i am a college grad. i genuinely love community events and public service. that being said i really want to be part of an organization for the core love of helping and bettering my people.
Deletei'll be honest, i love both aka and dst. i applied for a dst alumnae chapter. I didn't hear anything yet, but a part of me feels like I should have waited for aka to happen. what can i do if im having a change of heart?
I was rejected twice from the org I wanted to join simply because someone didn't like me and took it upon herself to sabotage me. I know her very well I might add and never knew she didn't like me until recently. After my second rejection I was talking to friend of mine who goes to a school 500 miles away from mine who said the same thing happened to her. This leads me to believe these young ladies act like this everywhere. Well because of this I am completely turned off from the sorority. I might not ever try to pledge again but if I do it will def be another sorority. I don't think it is fair that because someone tried to tear me down I have to still want to join that sorority and if I don't that means i didnt want it bad enough.
ReplyDeleteI am in a D 9 Fraternity, my response to you is that I could understand how you would be frustrated by this situation but remember you are trying to pledge the Sorority..Not the Girl who didn't like you. Therefore, you can not let her standing your way. You apparently liked what the Sorority Stood for in the 1st place so you cant let one person stand in your way. Running to another org suggests you really werent all about the purpose of the sorority, but rather you just wanted letters. I am not saying this is the case, merely that this is how it looks.
DeleteI am in a D 9 Fraternity, my response to you is that I could understand how you would be frustrated by this situation but remember you are trying to pledge the Sorority..Not the Girl who didn't like you. Therefore, you can not let her standing your way. You apparently liked what the Sorority Stood for in the 1st place so you cant let one person stand in your way. Running to another org suggests you really werent all about the purpose of the sorority, but rather you just wanted letters. I am not saying this is the case, merely that this is how it looks.
Deletethis just gave me inspiration to continue in my journey of joining the sorority that i want to be a part of , i was just recently rejected and know exactly why i was rejected. i have been working hard to fix the issue. i am friends with some of the new members and have been told they probably will be having another line next school year, which will also be my last chance for undergraduate. so i have been trying to meet members . hopefully on the next go-round i won't miss that train
ReplyDeleteI completely understand how you feel about being rejected I am going to try agin because that is something that I really want to do with hard work and faith it just might be a yes the next time keep your head up and keep going
DeleteIf there is rush in the fall and I am taking full time credits this summer, would I be able to rush using my gpa and credits from summer ?
DeleteFor everyone who has been rejected, keep trying don't ever ever give up on your dreams!! Continue to work on improvement and one day may all of your dreams come true and once you are accepted continue to do great work in your organization.
ReplyDeleteNaw don’t keep trying save that money put it in a savings account ten years later you get the last laugh
DeleteThis gives me hope. I was rejected from the org I'd like to join because of a protocol issue, which was something I had no control over. At first I was angry and sad and I will probably be angry and sad when the new members are presented next week. However, I will also be happy for some of them as well, because I know how badly they wanted it. It is what it is. It maybe that it just wasn't the right timing. I look forward to rushing, hopefully pledging and hopefully crossing in the near future.
ReplyDeleteI want to thank you for creating this blog. I came across this blog 2 years ago and have been following you anonymously. I was preparing for a BGLO membership and the night I came across your blog, I stayed up reading every post. I applied for membership and was devastated when I found out I was rejected. As you stated above I was hurt, confused and angry. After crying many tears, I took your advice and continued pressing on. I knew I had to make myself stand out and set out to do just that. I thought that since I was going to be a senior I didn't have a prayer.
ReplyDeleteI am happy to report that I am now a proud member of ALPHA KAPPA ALPHA Sorority Inc. Your advice was dead on and you were a god-sent! Thank you for doing all that you do my fellow sister-greek!
Is it possible if I ask you a couple of questions please?
DeleteI got rejected from the org I've wanted so bad. I couldn't figure out why because I'm always direct, professional and honest. I let my work ethic and personality speak for itself, so when I go the No, needless to say, I was very hurt, and it took a while to recover.I just ask, how does one continue to keep that love that they initially had for the organization? To say that because I'm not "as ecstatic" about the org as I once was is with due merit. How do you get that love back?
ReplyDeleteBTW it's nice to see another Chi-Town SouthSider. :)
ReplyDeleteThank you! Thank you! Thank you!
ReplyDeleteI have been following your blog for a while now. I applied and was rejected! I was angry, pissed off and confused. Not only did I meet the requirements, I over exceeded them, so I just KNEW they were going to pick me. At that moment I was through with them and wanted no part of this organization. But then a few days later, I came to re-read this post.....After I dried my tears, I decided that I was just emotional at the moment. A year later I reapplied, I am happy to announce that I am a member of Alllllpha Kappa Allllpha!!! Thank you so much sistergreek for your blogs. You are right, I appreciate it so much more now. I realized that it wasn't my time yet, and I am thankful for my line sisters.
You truly helped me in more ways than you will ever know!
Skeeee-Oooop!!!!
May I contact/email you some questions I have please?
DeleteI was rejected this past semester from the Org I wanted to be apart of and I was hurt. I thought that I would cry and go into crazy mode but Finals was in two weeks and Organic Chemistry didnt care about my emotional issues. I took a day to just breath and take it in, and then I got back into the grind of studying hard for my other dreams because If I had gotten rejected from getting a B in organic chem then I would have been just as sad. I figured that god had a plan for me and maybe it wasnt my time. I know that the process is very time consuming and I probably would have been going through in trying to pass some of the hardest classes Ive ever had. I wasnt able to say congrats to the people that made it, emotionally I just wasnt there but I stayed away from comparing myself to them or putting them down because If they made it they had something that the ORG was looking for!!! I just told myself that I needed the summer to get over my feelings and even though It still stings when I think about it, I think about that A i got in physics and that B i got in organic and I say, " what god has for me is for me" and if the ORG is for me, god will see to it that It is in my path and if not then he will give me the strength to accept that.....:) THanks for this blog I read it before I applied and after i got rejected and I wanted to Personally talk to you to get some insight but this helped all the more....
ReplyDeleteI feel you. I did all that I could to get into this particular Org but to no avail. I followed the Org since high school. Got rejected once and tried again, only to be rejected. I hurt (it still stings) but God. If God has it in my future he will deliver it to me but for now I am focusing on my bio chem grades studying to become a future Doc. Many thanks
DeleteI am pretty turned off at this point with the sorority I decided to rush for. I chose them because of their service in the community and other distinctions. I always wanted to join since I was a young girl. My parents never went to college, but the women I looked up to in grade school were in sororities. My past teachers inspired me to also be apart of the great diving nine, up until this year. I got that rejection letter and my heart did break. Having to go on each day with school and other activities are hard when you are upset at the hard work and time you put into being in a particular divine nine organization just to receive a rejection letter. What hurts me the most is I suffer from a disorder that half near killed me two years ago and it gave me the motivation to do the things I was always afraid to do. I was real reluctant in joining a sorority in fear that I would never be "enough" to impress those people. I put that in the back of my mind and worked damn hard to do everything I needed to do. I always had a good gpa, but I also decided to join more orgs, go to sorority events, etc. All in the end all I got was a rejection letter. So yes, I am very cold to all that has to do with the sorority, knowing there is nothing else to do but simply "try again". Well I graduate next May and I know for a fact that that I wont be able to join because the sorority only does intake every other year. So I will be at graduation with the lack of satisfaction that I won't have the opportunity of sisterhood and to prove that the overlooked people like me can make it. I got overlooked by the organization that I hoped to plant roots and grow in. I will NEVER forget this!
ReplyDeleteWow! I thought I was the only one this happened to. I was so hurt when I received my letter of rejection. But I do beleive the timing was not right. I also believe that sometimes GOD will delay a desire of your heart because he needs your attention elsewhere. With that said I will hold fast to my dream of 30 plus years until it comes true! Thanks so much for the encouragement!
ReplyDeleteThanks for posting this. I got rejected a few years ago in college, and to this day I still love the org, and dream one day of becoming a member. I look back, and realize that maybe I was truly not ready, and God did not have it in his plan for me to join that particular chapter. I am on the road again, and am making sure my stuff is tight now! :)
ReplyDeleteI can really relate to the person who commented about how she wasn't chosen because someone simply did not like her. That has happened to me on my second rejection. (I only applied twice.) I already knew 6 of the members of the sorority from before college, so I have no means of knowing how many or which one of them sabotaged me. (I know I was sabotaged because of how I was treated upon my inquiry about the decision and from other things.) At the same time, I just don't understand what she/them had against me that could change all of the other womens' votes. (The others only know me through attending events and my packet.So their votes should have been completely objective.) But what makes me really angry about this experience/situation is that you can not do anything to change a chapter's decision even if you KNOW something fishy went on. Like the person above, I went to EVERY event, more than what MOST of the actual members attended I may add. I made many sacrifices for the org because it was and still is in my heart. It just really breaks my heart that these women can be so petty, insensitive, insecure, judgmental, childish, selfish, and just plain wrong. And they do this and have no remorse...because it's done in secret! They're supposed to choose people who will help the chapter and the organization but from what I've been noticing, a lot of people don't choose based on that. So now I have to think...is this what I really want to get myself into. I have great and true reasons for wanting to join the sorority. I am just disappointed that my dreams couldn't come true because of this corrupt collegiate chaper.
ReplyDeleteI totally understand how you feel but know that you are wonderful with or withOUT letters. I was the young lady that wrote about being sabotaged. At that time I was completely distraught and it is something that didn't just go away. I found myself not enjoying campus life and keeping away from my friends (because all my friends made it and i do mean ALL made it) In hindsight I realize I gave the sorority too much credit for making me feel whole and without them I graduated with honors and I am working a wonderful job! If you are meant to be in the sorority it will happen. Intake does not stop in college so don't let those horrible excuses for women sway your belief of what the sorority is truly meant to be. But if you never make it everything will be fine because you are already gone with the wind fabulous. Snap Snap
DeleteThis blog is very helpful. I plan on joining an organization and I told myself that these sororities in a way are a popularity contest. I'm glad I have read everyone's stories about rejection because now I know what the worse can be and that it is not the end of the world.
ReplyDeleteThis blog was extremely helpful to me from the beginning of my journey and even after I was rejected. I take comfort in the fact that it just wasn't meant to be at that time, and God had/has other plans for me. It definitely still hurts a little when I think about it, but putting my focus on other things such as my education, and becoming a better person definitely helps to keep my mind off of it. I know eventually I'll get there, it's just going to take some time. ;) Thank you so much for posting this blog!
ReplyDeleteI was not chosen for the organization I wanted to join. I was voted in however the person who signed my letter of recommendation put 2011 instead of 2012. So Nationals threw out my paper work. I was ANGRY, HURT, AND CONFUSED. I didn't know why a minor issue like that would stop me from getting into the organization. I will be trying again this year, this blog gave me hope to pick my lip up and try again. This organization is in my heart and I will keep trying until I make it.
ReplyDeleteTHANKS SO MUCH
i can relate, my application was rejected because the person who wrote my letter did not put her title although her name is in the LLC and was signed. i find myself dealing with a multitude of emotions and being conflicted because they only do intakes every two years so i’ll have to push my graduation date back. i made a pros and cons list and decided that this was the best option seeing as though i would’ve been overwhelmed with the classes i had to take in order to graduate on time, plus i have time to save and network some more. but i will be upset bc all of my peers will no longer be here to see me cross.
DeleteWhat a waste of time.. Smh. I never cared for these organizations. I am, however, a member of an honor society, but that's is a respectable organization that sought me out. My mom, aunt, and grandmother are all members of the same org., so naturally they expected me follow suit. I had no intentions of doing so, but once I actually got on campus and witnessed first hand the way some of these "ladies" treated others I was turned off. I don't know who called them classy, but classy they are not. I would not waste my time. I have built ever lasting friendships in the military as well as in college. I have the prestige, the accolades, the support, etc... I have always believed that these organizations were overrated and divisive.
ReplyDeleteGood for you. Everything is not meant for everybody. Thank you for your service
DeleteNO Offense but this is Bullshit. They walk around like they are so better than everyone else and no one else matters. White sorrorities don't treat other young ladies like this. This is just contributing to the stigma as to why black women have so many issues with each other. No sense of sisterhood and how or what this rejection does to the woman.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why you would EVER think that white sororities don't treat young women like this. I belong to a white greek letter organization and yes I have witnessed myself. It's not a Black or White thing at all. You should only speak about what u know.
ReplyDeleteTHANK YOU.
ReplyDeleteI recently applied for membership into the sorority of my choice. I had over 150 hours of community service, wonderful recommendation letters and a GPA well above the minimum requirement. I had three quality leadership positions as well. I also attended every single event they had since 2011 ( I was a freshman, now I am a junior) and spoke to every single member every time. I went to rush and I kid you not, two days later I got a letter of rejection. My heart broke. Only to come to find out that they pre-picked a line and I suppose I just wasn't one of their picks. It saddens me to know that great candidates are looked over by chapters like this all the time. There are only five active member and only a handle full of girls applied (a number under 40), so they needed members. My questions is, where does one find the motivation to re-apply? I have one year left and I'm pretty sure there will be another line, but I am hurt. I invested a lot of time and energy to make myself stand out to this chapter. Words of advices?
ReplyDeleteA similar situation happened to me. and you are right they did pre pick the line which technically is not fair. You could report them because I have heard that they are not suppose to keep your packet on hand after a certain amount of time and it's clear they did not send your packet off to nationals like they are suppose to when you meet the criteria. If you don't want to report them my word of advice would be to get to know the girls that made this most recent line. You will have a better chance winning them over since you all were once in the same position. If you do that you should have no problem making it. Good luck. And also stop googling answers to the problem it just makes everything worse.
DeleteOk I'm reading all of ya'll's rejections and you all say you received a rejection letter. This is my question. I applied and was rejected except I did not receive a letter, a call back or anything telling me whether or not I was rejected. As a matter of fact it was not even clear at rush how we would find out if we didn't. Well I found out through the grapevine that they did call backs the day after rush. The only ppl who got call backs were ppl who made it and ppl who had left things out of their packets and had poor gpas. But my issue is I received NO INFO. I did not even get my packet back. I mean I know for a fact there was absolutely nothing wrong with it as I triple checked it before turning it in and my gpa was waaayyy above what it needed to be. Later I found out from one of the members of the sorority that I was indeed highly voted upon and she couldn't figure out why I hadn't received a call the nxt day. Basically after the group voted 3 of the members president, secretary and vice president x'd out who they didn't want and do want behind the scenes...the rest of the group did not even know what was going on. Long story short the president and secretary didn't care for me why? IDK you all know how petty females can be. But needless to say that line was dropped anyway. But my question is I know for sure that they did not send my packet off to nationals so what did they do with it? I would really like to know. They had a line this semester and they did the same exact thing when in the past it took a wk almost 2 for them to get call backs. Has anyone ever heard of them doing this? It sounds fishy. I did not go out for the line this semester because I did not feel like dealing with the bs I encountered last semester so I will just wait until this new line brings out another line or just do grad chapter. But yes what happened to my packet? Can anybody help me out here?!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear your experience! I received a rejection letter and have absolutely no idea why I didn't get chosen for an interview. Everything was complete in the packet. Everything happens for a reason...It's all part of God's plan! Be Blessed!
DeleteWhen did you receive your letter if you don’t mind me asking?
DeleteI applied to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha last Spring. When I found out that I wasn't excepted because the person that sign my recommendation letter put 2012 instead of 2013. I was sad & pissed because I didn't understand how a person could have everything but you throw out their paperwork because a small issue. It never crossed my mind to pledge another sorority, the first thing that I thought was how could be so stupid not to catch that, && then I told myself that I will get it next time.
ReplyDeleteI've been working hard to get my GPA up and getting to know the new girls that came of that Spring line. I will reapply for this Spring'14 line. I STRONGLY believe that it wasn't my time yet. I have faith that this is my year.
I was recently rejected from the sorority that I wanted to be apart of. During rush, I was so nervous because I was called out of the room and told that I was missing the orginal copy of one document, though I had the exact number of copies they wanted and everything else was fine. Thankfully, someone brought it for me but the rest of the day I was so nervous. I just knew that was not a good look and I figured they would probably just toss my packet out. I was surprised a little over a week later when I was notified to send in my permission for a background check. I did get excited because I just knew something positive was about to happen but one week later I got the rejection letter. I felt so confused and hurt but I knew that I had to pick myself up. I just wonder why I got that far and was still rejected? I took the time to participate in thier events and I knew some of the members. I had good community service hours and a good gpa, though I only had one leadership role. I just figured that it's not my time and all this is in God's plan for me. I still have love for the sorority and even if it's during my hardest semester I still plan on trying again. I'm not a quitter and I still have faith that I can make them see I'm a good asset.
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly is majority vote? I've heard 75% and I've heard other numbers. For example, 27 people that need to vote, wouldn't 14 be majority?
ReplyDelete2/3 majority vote
DeleteI was rejected last year praying soon I can come back and say that I am a proud member XYX (: I'm praying the same for you ladies
ReplyDeleteOnce again I was rejected from AKA. I will not be applying for undergrad anymore, I will just try grad chapter
ReplyDeleteI was just recently rejected from a sorority. I had gotten and interview and was so escotes I even made it that far, but teo weeks later I got a rejection letter and just starred at it as i just openly said why? My mother was so hurt. As I am her legacy. I just didn't understand. I want to. join grad chapter but how much does it it take?
ReplyDeleteI was denied from a Sorority because the woman who wrote my recommendation letter forgot to put her address -_- , so my packet was not sent to the corporate office
ReplyDeleteI cried, but I'm never going to give up. I am going to get my masters degree. Get more community service and repair myself as woman. I don't care how long it takes.
ReplyDeleteThis blog has made me feel a little more at ease to know that I am not the only woman who has been rejected from a sorority twice in a row. The first time, I had a 3.2 gpa and my packet was decent. The main issue was, that I only knew about two girls from the previous line and we were not friends. I was told I wasn't chosen because they did not know me. This year, weeks ago, I was fortunate enough to attend the next rush. I know 95% of the girls and one is my best friend, my packet was A1 HOWEVER, my last semesters GPA did not meet the requirement even though I have an overall 2.96. I am devastated, embarrassed, hurt, and sad. I keep beating myself up about it. But my thoughts on the Lord's guidance is comforting me,. Next year I will be 100% prepared.
ReplyDeleteIt makes me feel so much better to know that I am not the only girl that was rejected twice..... I was rejected the first time because the lady that signed my reference letter put 2011 until 2012! I called and begged to adviser to let me over night a new reference letter to the headquarters but she told me it didn't work like that! The second time I tried out I really don't know what happened. I will continue you to try and becoming a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. I want this so badly, if I don't make undergrad I will try to do grad hopefully I will be able to come back next semester and share with you guys that I crossed the burning sands....
ReplyDeleteI lucked up on this blog and I'm glad I did! I was also rejected twice.... The first time I got the majority vote, I was called again for the background check.. I just knew that I was going to make it Unfortunately, I got a call back later saying that I was rejected because of a signature that was missing on my reference letter! This last semester I was rejected because I didn't know the girls like that! I personally feel that the background check and all that good stuff should be done at rush and then they should call you ONLY when they know for you sure you made it! I think that 's why alot of girls feelings are hurt because they get that call saying you got the votes... Anyway... I will be trying out again and praying that I become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.
ReplyDeleteI am a member of AKA my daughter was rejected. I feel that they are becoming shady like the housewives. You seem like a fine young lady, do not put yourself thru that. Join something else and show them what they are missing. Signed thru with AKA
DeleteWas she rejected at the grad or the undergrad level? How often are lines? I am also seeking membership and am doing the necessary steps
DeleteUndergrad level
Deletewhen should you send a letter of interest to the sorority?
DeleteHow long did it take them to call to tell you that you received majority vote. I has rush 2 weeks ago , and I haven't heard anything.
DeleteNot sure have you heard anything because my rush was 2wks yesterday haven't heard yay or nay?
DeleteWell I recently got rejected. I thought I had everything, obviously not. I had a 3.5 gpa, over 700 hours of community service, my packet was perfect. During the interview process, I was a little nervous, but I think I handled myself well. I dressed well, kept my reputation squeaky clean and prayed so very hard for this. I am graduating next semester which means I have no change of ever becoming a member of something I have wanted so long. I have went to absolutely every event that the sorority has had for the last 2 years. I have given my all just to be shut out. I honestly think it is not about what credentials you have and how hard you have worked, it is about who is your friend! I believe this should be recognized! I know there are millions of girls that have been denied, but in my case, I don't even think I got a fair chance.
ReplyDeleteEverything you just described is exactly what I have experienced this month. I have cried about, gotten angry, and even gave up but I put myself back together and realized with or without this organization I am still going to be the out going person and good Samaritan that I have always been. I'm not sure if I will try again but I plan on building myself up so much that people will want to have my name and presence around them. Don't doubt yourself hun and good luck!! ;-)
DeleteEverything you just described is exactly what I have experienced this month. I have cried about, gotten angry, and even gave up but I put myself back together and realized with or without this organization I am still going to be the out going person and good Samaritan that I have always been. I'm not sure if I will try again but I plan on building myself up so much that people will want to have my name and presence around them. Don't doubt yourself hun and good luck!! ;-)
DeleteI am very angry and upset that my daughter was not chosen to pledge AKA. She would have been a third generation. I can accept it if she would have gotten a letter, but they pledge the girls and did not let anyone know. I have over 75 years of service with all of my family members being active. I think she deserved at least some kind of letter had the child on hold. I am thru with AKA and they do not have to worry about getting their 600 dues nest year. I am sorry that my mother paid hers and my aunt paid hers, but they will not get mines. I feel no sisterhood
ReplyDeleteWill she pursue grad chapter? If you are active, she can join your grad chapters.
DeleteJust curious, did your daughter ever become an AKA? Plus if she is a legacy, wasn't she a shoe-in in becoming a member? I thought that's how the AKA process works? I was rejected recently because there were so many legacies on my yard, that they only had a few spots left for non-legacies. At least that's what I've been told.
DeleteI just can't believe AKA has the audacity to run a credit check on potential members. It's ridiculous. What does anyone's credit score have to do with serving your community. I personally know several AKA's that foreclosed on their house, some with repossessions, and others that have filed bankruptcy. I don't see them getting kicked out of the sorority. It's just DUMB.
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ReplyDeleteI attended an interest meeting for XYZ earlier this semester. They didn't require us to bring any documents but we filled out a paper basically saying we're interested. Is that considered rush? If not are you invited to rush or do they just post it like they would an interest meeting. Also do they vote after they have given you an application or do they do it before you've done any type paperwork. Also were can these applications be found. Please help I'm not from America and no one in my community is Greek so I don't know how this works and who to ask. Thank you
Hey all,
ReplyDeleteI have applied 3 times to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha sorority inc., I am under the impression that it's not about your GPA, it's doesn't matter about your community service but it's all about who you know within the chapter! They will be having a line this spring and I doubt if I go! Being rejected 3 times has really hurt me and I have really tried not to take it personal.
Alot of people have told me " Latonya it's ok you can just do grad" and It's not that simple.... I wanted the undergrad experience, I know it's not all about the strolling and the greek shows and it's all about service but I really just wanted that undergrad experience.
So what do you do when you interviewed(undergrad), was text messaged that you will get a rejection letter and never got it? Is this something I should take to a president or authority figure?
ReplyDeleteWhen is the time to send the letter of intent to a sorority?
ReplyDeleteI just recently got rejected from XYZ sorority and I am absolutely crushed. I don't want to go back to more programs because it is honestly embarrassing and my biggest fear is being rejected twice, how bad would it be if I decided to seek interest in another organization? Won't they ask me on the application have I ever applied for a sorority before?
ReplyDeleteNo, they will not ask you that. It will look bad if you join another org after attending xyz sorority's rush first.
DeleteFor anyone reading this, you will be asked if you tried to apply for another sorority. Don't lie!
DeleteI got my rejection letter today and I have no reason why...I plan to find out the reason and want to see how I can improve myself for the next time I apply for membership but the difference is that this time I'm not going to be an undergraduate. I'll be applying for grad chapter. This will be my second rejection letter and was my last chance to prove to the undergrad that I am worthy, a leader and the foundation for the future of the organization. My whole entire life I've been a go getter and I never let anything get in my way, but when I tell you this second letter was my last chance at undergrad, seeing the word “regret” really hurt my heart. But my next step will be to apply for grad chapter... Can anyone from a grad chapter inform me on the difference between the undergrad and grad process ? Please and thank you
ReplyDeleteOk, I just recently found out I was rejected from a divine 9 sorority. The bad thing is how I found out that I did not get picked for the sorority. No rejection letter was given to me, in fact I found out about my rejection from a mutual friend of mine and another girl that went through the application process. I found out a week before the probate. I've been constantly waiting on a call, e-mail or a letter of any kind to ease my distress. I've never been so hurt and angry on how I found out I did not make it, especially since I knew some of the members personally. I thought so highly of this sorority and was so excited to go through this process until this happened. This is my last year as an undergrad and I have no more chances to prove myself to this particular sorority. However, another sorority that I think highly of as well is having another line. These two sororities were the ones that I was really interested in but I chose the one that I knew more people in. Would it be bad if I applied for membership in this sorority?
ReplyDeleteTrust me when I say, I know how you feel." I was rejected from XYZ Fraternity, Inc. I honestly thought that this last time was going to be my Chance, and this is my senior year. At one point , I was bitter, and I hated everything about the young men on my campus. I really never understood why . 3.1 GPA, active within the campus and surrounding communities, and a member of two campus known organizations. I still would like to be apart of the organization, so I know that I will try to join a Grad chapter, its just that seeing my parents and my siblings pledge undergrad, I would have loved to follow in their footsteps.
ReplyDeleteThis was a very helpful, insightful, and inspiring read. My experience is a little different, in that I've been interested in this sorority at the graduate level. As a transfer student, I missed out on the opportunity to apply as an undergrad. Alumnae chapters seem to have a member intake process less frequently than undegrad chapters. SO, after 6 years they finally had a line, and I wasn't on it. 6 years of attempting to find and connect with the members, attending events when they had them (which as rarely), and finally making an introduction to the Chapter President this year. I finally thought I was making headway in getting to know the members and to let them get to know me. I missed their last event due to a previous commitment with another group I volunteer with and checked their page for updates on the next event. What do I see? The previous weekend, they had a welcoming ceremony for their Spring 2015 line. Go figure. I wasn't sure to feel frustrated or insulted that I wasn't even considered or offered the opportunity to apply. Or to wonder if it would've been better to apply and then be rejected. Then I realized, that somewhere, something didn't click. And as this post shares, perhaps it wasn't my time. I'm still very interested in this sorority, bu perhaps this isn't the chapter for me. I'm happy for the new members, though of course I wish I had been part of that line, and I'll continue attending events once they begin again in the fall (the chapter is on break for summer), but I'm not pressed and wouldn't recommend others be. Further, in being honest, I also realized that as an introvert, I have to speak up more for me and be a self-advocate. I will put myself out there more and make a greater effort to engage with more members at events, so that they can more fully get to know me, especially with the newest members. If you know that you are meant to be in the sisterhood or brotherhood of your choice, it will happen. In the meantime, continue growing and learning personally, professionally, and engaging in your communities; which will all strengthen your/our applications when the opportunity arises again. Peace and Be Blessed.
ReplyDeleteThese comments are very helpful. I plan on pledging Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. this fall and the thought of being rejected is taunting me a little. I attend a mid-sized university and our chapter of Deltas consists of only six members right now because members from our 2014 line graduated and the moratorium withheld any new lines from coming out. I feel as though I have a pretty good gpa (3.3), I have some community service hours, and I am active in two campus organizations. I am just going to continue to work hard and I pray that I will ultimately be accepted and help our small chapter progress! If I am rejected, God forbid, I will most likely try to join the Alumnae chapter. I am terribly nervous I must admit but excited at the same time! I thank each of you who posted your experiences and admire your resiliency! You can be great without being Greek!
ReplyDeleteQUESTION: Have any of you ever thought of joining another sorority/fraternity after being rejected? Not out of spite or wanting to "belong" to something, but after reflecting on your rejection felt that what you thought you wanted you really didn't. Sometimes we harp on something so much we don't think that the way things happen are for a reason. *kanye shrug* Just curious.
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart! I am in the process of trying to stand out their to some of the chapter members at my university, it is so hard because I feel like they are annoyed with me when I try to hold a conversation with them. Do you all have any tips/ideas/ANYTHING that can help me stand out as a prospective member. I have a huge fear of rejection like some of you all stated. Just remember God will place us all where we belong. Please comment with some helpful tips. My university chapter has a team for the AIDS walk, should I donate and join the team? I would really love to join them but I am worried that by my donation it could seem as if I am trying to buy my chances on the line.
ReplyDeleteHey, as recent member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. (Spring15) some advice i would give you is to honestly be yourself. Yes it is very important to get to know the members but never come off as overbearing. No one likes a kiss a**. Personally from experience, i wouldn't go up to any of the members in a public setting asking them questions about their org. Not that its rude, but its just that it can be awkward. Especially if you aren't already friends with some of the members or even on a hi and bye basis with them. If you don't already know some of them, you are a stranger to them. Think about it if you were in there shoes. How would you feel if people constantly came up to asking you questions about something serious and you don't even know them? Especially in a public setting. Time and place is very important. ( REMEMBER DISCRETION) The best way to show your interest and stand out is to constantly show your face at there events. Try to go to most or all of there events. Also while at there events participate in the discussions as much as possible. Answer questions etc. Let them know who you are there. Next thing is don't just do community service because you want to impress the ladies of the org but do it because you genuinely want to. All D9 orgs are service organizations. Also remember that you didn't go to college to join a sorority but to get a degree. So with that said make sure those grades are on point. Also become known on campus for the right reasons. Join other orgs and clubs. I guarantee you that some of the members in whatever org you are trying to pursue has members that are president, vice president etc of student govt., or even RA's in the dorms. Again like i said before "make yourself known for the right reasons." Also remember to carry yourself like a young woman should. And that goes for every girl pursuing any organization. Next thing is rush. Make sure your application is on point. i know too many girls that got denied because there application was a hot mess. Don't let that be the reason! Make sure you meet all the orgs requirements before even submitting an application.if you don't, you're only wasting your time. its very easy to make simple mistakes so just make sure to go over everything. Personally i would even go beyond the minimum requirements for membership. Remember that whatever is for you, is for you! Nothing happens before its time. Good luck! :)
DeleteMy daughter is curious to know would something like not having a date on a letter get you disqualified from an interview
ReplyDeleteyes, dates are something that wont be looked past. Make sure everything is dated and signed.
DeleteIf she did receive an interview then does that mean that everything in her packet was alright including everything being signed and dated?
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ReplyDeleteWill a sorority pick you with a criminal background?
ReplyDeleteHow can I find out when the moratorium will pass? What should an interested person do in the meantime while the moratorium is active? Is it appropriate to ask a member in the graduate chapter that Im interested in joining when they had a line last?
ReplyDeleteI was recently rejected without an interview and i was told it was because of a missing signature how ever the signature was present. what does this mean?
ReplyDeleteMy daughter was told that she did not get in. The college she attends has only 1 member and she had to seek help from former students/members and I believe in my heart that some of the former members and including the 1 member on campus had it out for my daughter, you know as a parent when situations like this happen you want to be able to fix it, however sometimes there are things that go on way beyond our control. My daughter has waited 3 year for this just to be rejected. The college did not have a line last year because the girls last year were in a lot of trouble. Once you do something or say something that a member does not like they will make sure you do not get in. I tried to explain to my daughter that everybody is not your friend, they are your friend-enemy. That is someone who pretends to like you, but they really don't. My heart is hurting for her because I know how hard she has worked and how bad she wanted to be a part of XYZ sorority. She was told that she was rejected because her community service letter had some inconsistencies in it, well if that were the case why was she granted an interview, the 1 member on campus and the campus advisor who reviewed the letter should have rejected her at that point I would think, but what do I know. I have come to the conclusion that it is not what you know, but who you know. If a member does not like you, most likely your chances of becoming a sorority sister is slim, because they can make a phone call or get together as a group and decide they don't want you and make sure you do not get in and these are people that you think are your "so called friends".
ReplyDeleteIf I can give any advice to anyone who wants to be apart of the sisterhood and have been rejected would be is to keep your mouth shut and keep your friend enemies close and if this is what you really want do not give up, because what God has for you it's for you. Be Blessed!
Hey yall I was recently rejected too from the sorority I wanted to join. It hurt so bad I was so stressed I couldn't eat. I figured I wasn't going to get picked because I stumbled on a question but I find it very funny how they still didn't pick me. Girls can be very funny acting and I feel that this line coming up will be people they already know. Im a senior and I wont have another chance to do undergrad so that's what makes it bad for me. smh but everything happens for a reason.
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ReplyDeleteHello! I recently attended the rush for an organization, and I didn't get accepted or rejected. I've seen other prospective members who have been accepted, then also ran into one of the members who are apart of this sorority and she asked if I was selected. I simply told her no. I kind of threw me off because I wasn't sure if I had actually gotten accepted or rejected.
ReplyDeleteI have a question, even though this blog hasn't been used since March
ReplyDeleteI was rejected from XYZ Sorority INC. for many reasons that I thought was unfair. I thought I was close to the vice president and I went to every single event even though I commute (which is an hour away from campus and their events were held at night usually from 7-9pm ). I didn't get a letter personally, I was rejected over the phone for many reasons which I thought was BS. But the biggest reason, that kind've pissed me off, was that I was a senior and that's why I didn't make it. The so called "president" (she's not on the board at all) said yes you went to all of our events, but why did you wait until now? I told her vaguely I had family issues (And that still wasn't enough for her) and I couldn't give all my attention to the sorority at the moment. I told her, I understand people have family issues; but mines was something that drastically changed me for the worse and I was not ready to make a commitment.
Then the second thing, that pissed me off, was that she lumped me in with a senior that did them dirty two semesters ago. The senior received her letters and never came back at all. After she graduated she "disappeared" and they felt hurt. I explained to her that I wasn't like that and If accepted you would see. I want the organization to see that I'm all in, especially If I'm getting home passed 11:00pm everyday you have a event, donating money and always there.
I realized that the girl maybe didn't like me, maybe she took it to her head since she joined when she was a freshman and that she had a special vendetta for people who joined as a senior. But the part that was funny to me was that the real "president" was there and she just stayed quiet while listening to music. I would hate to see this organization die out because that's what happened to the Zeta's at my campus. The organization makes themselves unfriendly and I kinda see why other people choose Sigma Lambada Upsilon every year on my campus (they literally have a line every semester) or people who were in the process, like a good friend (two years ago) of mine and quit because of a problem they had with the sorority, and then people told me to be careful with the sorority I was interested in because they are petty and mean. But I thought, there were being dramatic, but the stories I heard are adding up now and it makes me wonder now; if I should join a graduate chapter?
I have been reading this blog for a long time. I was rejected twice while I was in undergrad. Like almost everyone on this list, I had above the required GPA, leadership roles on campus and tons community service. I was rejected because of a ton of issues/drama that was beyond my control (and many chapter members told me they weren't happy about it). After I graduated, I still kept my dream in place, but now I had to go about it differently. I found out about my local graduate chapter and I started going to events/programs. I continued to do my service work and I made sure that I got to know members of the chapter and expressed interest to them. A couple of years later, I received a call from a member of my former chapter of interest informing me that there would be a line happening the following term in that graduate chapter. I was thrilled when I received an invitation to the informational. I went super early and made sure my packet was on point (again).
ReplyDeleteThis time, I made it! When I crossed, I received so many positive messages from people, including some of the ladies who were in the chapter that rejected me.
Here is some words of advice for those who will read this:
~ Listen ya'll, this isn't an exact science. Each situation is going to be different. Each organization does things differently and each chapter will have a different culture. You cannot go by the experiences of your best friend that went to another college or is in another org.
~ I did NOT bash the chapter or the organization. Had I done that, I would not have gotten the call all those years later telling me about a potential line. There were a couple of women who were rejected from my line that made comments/sent e-mails about my LS's out of hate. It's not a good look and people don't forget.
~ You are not owed ANYTHING. You are not a shoe-in. Your GPA, service, leadership and legacy status may be everything, but if you don't get past the chapter vote, you will not be a member. Period. It could be for the pettiest of reasons but the vote is final. Instead of focusing on that, focus on continuing to be excellent on your campus/in your community. If you happen to find out why you didn't make it, attempt to make changes so it doesn't happen again. It is important to be humble.
~ If you crossed during undergrad, it would literally be 10% (or less) of your Greek experience. If the only reason you want to pledge is for the undergrad experience, you would probably be better off NOT being accepted. Undergrads and Grads both have regular meetings, programs, conferences/conventions and financial responsibilities. Undergrads tend to think that grad chapters don't do ANYTHING undergrads do. We have parties, we stroll/strut/hop/shimmy and step just like undergrads. And we have a GREAT time doing it. We work hard and play hard. It is a lifetime commitment.
~ Lastly, don't try to show up when you find out there is a going to be a line. (This goes for undergrad and grad) Your pursuit should begin long before that. By the time that informational/Rush flier is posted, the members of the chapter should know you and you should have plenty of community service and other leadership under your belt. If you just showed up a month before Rush, Sorors notice.
It sucks. I know personally. I have a ton of friends who have been rejected and ended up crossing later and some who are still pursuing the org of their dreams. Try to keep a positive attitude and let go of all of those situations and issues.
Good Luck!
What if your application was postmarked before the deadline but due to mailing issues it didn't get in on time?
ReplyDeleteWhat ended happening for you?
DeleteI began the process to pledge Delta Sigma Theta but there was not a grad line in my service area. To pledge grad chapter in Delta, you can only pledge in the chapter that you reside in. Finally, after 10 years, this grad Chapter in the Houston, Texas area had a line. I followed everything to the letter. My application was superior.(I was told that from a member of the Minerva circle) I was rejected because I signed my phone number and email in ink on a page that said use pen and ink. When I received the rejection letter, it said I was rejected because the form was missing or not signed. This is not accurate. I was told this chapter, North Harris County Alumnae did this to disqualify applicants because so many people applied and they were only accepting 42 women. I was told they did this to over 50 applicants. Did they not expect a large number of applicants after 10 years? The rush had about 500 women there so...They have to send in paperwork to nationals to explain why they rejected you and signing your name and number in ink is not a valid reason. I'm disappointed that an organization of such high caliber has a Chapter that makes the entire organization look bad by lying and doing untrue things. I hate to admit it but it is who you know rather than what you possess and can bring to the organization. Delta is so much more than a social club yet this type of behavior diminishes the concept the founders had when it was created. They always say act as if you are always wearing your letters. Did they forget they were "wearing their letters" and representing Delta as a whole when they lied? Has this happened to anyone else? #dishonest #NHCAC has no integrity
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry that this happened to you. I know the struggles of waiting years for intake. I'm also in the process of applying. I was applying with a friend and she had her application thrown out for missing one thing. I'm confused about what you mean though. You wrote your phone number and email in pin/ink? If so, I think that was wrong as everything should have been typed except where you signed and dated. (At least that's my understanding.)
DeleteI'm so sorry this has happened to you, as I am currently in the waiting period after a recent interview. At the rush of the chapter I am pursuing, the members reiterated that everything must be typed except for signature and date. Do you recall anything similar? Again, I'm so sorry, and I hope you decide to submit again if your heart desires. Blessings to you.
DeleteYou were not supposed to sign your number or email. It should've been typed. Will you try again next time?
DeleteThe year was 2010. The Alumnae Chapter in my area was finally having a line. I went back and read your blog what seemed like 100 times. I had my family, my AKA cousin, and my Sigma brother look over my application. They told me that it was great. I had so much confidence that I was going to be chosen for the next line. About a week or so after turning in my application, my phone rung. On the other end was a lady instructing me that I would receive an interview. After grabbing a pen and paper I wrote down her instructions and directions. When I hung up the phone, I did a happy dance. I was thrilled. I called my sorority mentor who told me to be myself. I went back and re-read all of the entries on this blog.
ReplyDeleteThe interview was finally here and I thought I killed it. Eye contact. Projecting my voice. Sounding Personal. Confidence. I walked out of there thinking I got this. Then crickets. I heard nothing. No one else that I knew personally also applied so I could not reach out to anyone. 2 weeks, then 3 weeks, then four weeks passed. Now although I recall there being what seemed like over 500 people at the Rush, I chalked it up that it would take a lot of time to get through everyone who was granted an interview. My mentor was in another state, so I couldn't rely on her.
Then it happened. A few months later, I see a post on facebook about the new line. I was CRUSHED! What happened? Why didn't I receive a rejection letter? What could I have done better? I was bitter, confused, and angry. How dare they NOT pick me? Although the celebration was open to the public, I did not attend. As pictures started to come in on fb, I felt my eyes getting wet. One of those spots should have been me. I was depressed for a few weeks. My best friend also just crossed into AKA-land a few weeks later in another state, and it was hard for me to be happy for her. I booked marked this blog and continued reading the author's posts. They were inspiring. I didn't want to lose faith of one day becoming a member. All of the emotions that the author described in this one blog post was exactly how I felt. I was finally able to get out of my feelings, and focus on the future.
I continued to support my local chapters events, was able to connect with the neophytes from the chapter, and after a while, they knew me by name. I went to community service events, social events, church events, I purchased tickets to their founders day events, whatever they had, I was there. Fast-forward seven years later. Another Rush. Another Interview. This time however I got an invitation to join. I am now in the process of becoming a member. I had to come back here to share my story. I know that this is pledging season, so hopefully my story will encourage those who tried but were rejected. If the org is in your heart, than don't stop believing. (Journey). It's just not your time. If it is worth fighting for, keep fighting.
To the author, thank you! I couldn't have gotten through that time without you. Thank you for creating this blog. Thank you for this post. It was exactly what I needed. To everyone else, good luck.
Thank you for this story and congratulations on getting invited to membership! I hope that your story gives others inspiration. I'm currently in the "waiting" period for my org of choice. At this point, I know it could go either way. While I had a strong application, I also didn't get to know the members beforehand as well as I should have and the interview was just OK, not great. Hopefully, I'll get an invitation but I don't think I would be too surprised if I don't.
DeleteI left the last comment - I just wanted to come back and update that I received an invitation! I'm so excited to start on this journey and I wish those who are still trying to be patient.
DeleteThis was not my first time applying but last time it was my own fault that I didn't make it. Therefore, I sat for over 5 years watching all the women who could have been my line sisters enjoy their place in the sisterhood. I never knew if I would ever obtain this goal but I'm excited to start it. Be patient. When it's your time, it will be your time. One of my line sisters to be is well into her 50s-60s and even she admitted that beforehand wasn't her time. Good luck!
Congratulations to you! Are you the person who mentioned before that you didn't have the opportunity to get to know the members of the Alumnae chapter that you have been accepted into? If so, that is my concern as well, as I wait. I know that my application is strong, and my interview went well, I just don't know if, at the Alumnae level, it is more of who you know than what you have to offer the organization. Hearing your story, if you are the same person, gives me hope. Thank you for your story, and I wish you all the best on your new journey!
DeleteCongratulations on your invitation! Did you mention that you weren't able to get to know the ladies of the chapter before your interview? If so, I am in the same situation. I believe my interview went well, and my packet, I believe, looks great. Your story gives me hope that most times they do select based on quality and not based on who knows you. Again, congratulations!
DeleteHi. No I didn't know the ladies beforehand. Maybe only one in passing. However, as luck, (God) would have it, I was randomly chosen to speak at one of their events at the beginning of the year. They were looking for women in specific professions. The president of my other organization was asked if he knew anyone and he submitted my name. At that point, I was so off the radar that I didn't even realize they were having a line. (Rush info was on their website.) Fast forward a week and I was at Rush with 100 other women. A few members remembered me from the event and seemed genuinely happy to see me. Gave me a hug and all. So I am sure all of that really helped me out!
DeleteGood luck though! And don't give up until you receive a rejection letter.
Your story is awesome! God truly has a way of placing you where you need to be, when you need to be there.....Congratulations, again, and I will continue to be hopeful and prayerful in my situation. It isn't over until HE says so.
DeleteThank you so much! I am beyond excited for this phase of my life. Like you mentioned, I knew I was the perfect applicant on paper. I was just so scared about the not knowing people part. I think it really is a mix of knowing people and the strength of your application. Plus this is of course, dependent on the chapter. I applied with someone else from my org that has held multiple exec positions. She does a lot more for the org than I do. I am almost sure that she has been going to events over the past several years. I was 100% sure that she would make it. Even more sure than for myself. Imagine my shock though to not see her walk through the doors at our first meeting. I don't know if she made it to the interview stage but I can only assume she did. Anyways just a little side note that you never know. I wish you both a lot of luck and ask that you please come back to update!
DeleteI'm currently in a situation that resembles your experience from 2010. It has been over 5 weeks since my interview (6 weeks this upcoming Saturday). Since you never received a rejection letter, is it safe to assume that I won't be getting one either? Are rejection letters even required? Although pessimistic, I am mentally exhausted from "waiting around" for a possibility.
DeleteLast poster did you get any notification?
DeleteI am happy to report after TWO rejections, I am now going to through the process of becoming a member the sorority of my dreams. I read this post over 10 times, each time after I was rejected. I guess three times a charm. I never gave up, and kept pushing through it. I am beyond excited and I can't wait to reveal myself when this is over. Thank you Ms. Love for this blog. Because of you, I was hopeful and prayerful. My prayers were finally answered. Good luck to everyone else!
ReplyDeleteI applied once for DST Alumnus Chapter, rejected for late transcripts. I said, okay I will try again. Nine years later another opportunity was presented and I applied again. Rejected for late transcripts. Times have changed since that time and I had a receipt to show the mailing date of my transcript. Emailed a copy of my request for appeal along with receipts of transcript delivery to the Chapter President. I received a response that this appeal request will be sent to regional to review. This was two weeks ago, no other updates. Am I chasing a "pipe dream"?
ReplyDeleteSo what was your final outcome?
DeleteDid you become a Delta?
DeleteIve turned in my application to become a Delta. Some people have gotten calls for their interview but I haven't as of yet. It's been a few days now. How long after should I expect a call if any? I possess everything they are asking for in fact I exceed what they are looking for. I'm nervous and scared and don't know what to think? Am I not going to get a call for an interview or does it take some time. I know this will be a pretty big line but I'm curious. How long does it take?
ReplyDeleteI was called a few days after I submitted my packet. If you didnt get a call then, maybe, your packet was incomplete.
DeleteYou fools. Be your own person and stop following vain,idolatrous,pagan, and demonic Greek organizations. I was once you and dying to be in one of the divine 9 sororities. I am a now a proud ex- greek. My money stays in my pocket. I'm not an ass kisser or a follower. I am at peace. I see grown men and women in their Greek paraphernalia and what was fascinating to me is now funny and pathetic.
ReplyDeleteThis is nonsense. There is nothing demonic about D9 organizations. Nor are they pagan. They actually incorporate Christian teachings if anything. There are reasons people may not choose to be a member, but demonic, pagan beliefs are not among them as this is not true.
DeleteIf anyone knows, do the sororities usually make acceptance calls all in one day? And when do rejection letters typically go out?
ReplyDeleteThe city I live in did all in one day. Couple girls I know made it through. I received my rejection letter about 2 days later ����
DeleteIs it possible to get a call back after you've been rejected? #AskingForAFriend
ReplyDeleteYes. From my understanding it's rare, but possible.
DeleteFear of rejection:
ReplyDeleteI just got a minor traffic citation and anticipate being on the SPR 19 line of my Chapter of Interest (COI) if applicable. I watched three older family members get rejected, two for incomplete packages, one for an infraction that her cousin got accepted with.
How do I keep calm?
Hello, I set out to join a sorority this current semester, but I was rejected. I did not make myself known, and I did not attend many events prior to rush. I actually hadn't planned on crossing this semester, but the opportunity presented itself and I said why not? My first year of college I was focusing solely on school, and my second I got a job so I had to figure out how to juggle multiple obligations at once, hence, I waited until my junior year to pursue crossing. Now that I am a junior and a line has just crossed, I am unsure if another one will cross before I graduate, but I will still stay on top of my gpa, community service, and campus involvement. My only thing is, should I become acquainted with members of the sorority, or not? I've heard that you shouldn't be too pushy and you should be discrete, but how will they know who I am?
ReplyDeleteFor those of you that have gone to Rush, were signs posted. At my campus, signs were never posted. Current members either told girls when Rush was or where the signs were and they were taken down. This seems to be wrong because there were so many girls that did not have a chance to attend Rush. This means that they already knew who they wanted.
ReplyDeleteLike many of you, I once received that dreaded rejection letter due to just not being ready at the time. I was devastated, hurt and embarrassed. But by God’s grace, I was granted a second chance next time around to apply for the best sorority on earth. I am now a proud member of my D9 sorority. I say this to say DO NOT GIVE UP! If something is in your heart to pursue, and you’ve prayed about it, don’t let it go. You may fail at first, but I am a living testimony that persistence works. All the odds were against me, but I still made it and am so happy if I am able to encourage someone else. Rejection hurts, but you heal from it, and make yourself BETTER, make yourself so good next time around that it’s no way they can deny you, focus on grades first, do your service and stand out and I have no doubt you will reach your goal. Good luck!. :) xoxo God Bless
ReplyDeleteI got a DWI a few years ago, how does BGLO's handle criminal records during MIP? Is there a chance I will still make it?
ReplyDeleteOn a case by case basis, and it also depends on the organization. There's a chance it may disqualify you completely.
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ReplyDeleteI'm pretty sure im getting rejected. I'm a junior this year but hopefully they have another line next year. This hurts so bad. It's been almost 2 weeks since packets were due and I didnt get a call. Plus I have a notification that I have papermail to pick up. This sucks a lot
ReplyDeleteHave you heard anything back yet? Did you get a rejection letter? If you haven't then there is still hope for you.
DeleteDoes anyone know if DST will disqualify my application for something simply like forgetting to put “N/A” for an alternate phone number? I’m so nervous any little thing will disqualify me smh. I didn’t see the oversight until after i sent the packet in the mail.
ReplyDeleteI think as long as it was an important question, you should be ok. Did you get called for an interview yet?
DeleteI haven’t heard anything yet! The packets were due last week.
ReplyDeleteThis is my third time being rejected. Twice in college and once at the alum level. I was crushed in college because I felt as if I knew the members. This time however it doesn't hurt as much. I really didn't know the members of my local alum chapter so I am not beating myself over it. I know I have a lot of work to do this time around. Good luck to all of you who made it, and for those that didn't just like, just keep the faith. Our time will eventually come.
ReplyDeleteI am crying as I am typing this out. I was rejected FOUR times. Twice in College and twice at the alumnae level. I never gave up. I read and re-read this post so many times and each after each rejection letter I felt defeated. After feeling sorry for myself I kept at it. I kept going to events, doing my community services, and getting to know the members.
ReplyDeleteI am happy to report, after 15 years of trying, I was extended an invitation for membership on this evening. I was shaking on the phone as they offered membership to me. I am so grateful and thankful for this blog. it kept me going because I was really ready to give up, but each time I wanted to, I came back to this particular post. Thank you so much Mrs. Love. Thanks for taking the time to educate myself and many other prospects looking to gain membership in our dream organizations. I truly hope to meet you in person one day, so I can properly thank you. Your advise was spot on. I found out that although my packet was great, I didn't get the chapter vote. I am guessing because they didn't really know me personally enough to vote for me. That has all changed as I have worked my tail off to get to know all of them. I am nervous about starting this process, but thrilled at the same time.
For those of you that have received rejection letters, take it from someone who has been in your shoes four times. Don't give up. Push on and when it is your time, it's YOUR time. Good luck to those who are still waiting, and praying for those who journey has ended with either a no vote or you were not granted an interview.
Signed a Soon to be member of a BGLO!
GOOD FOR YOU! Your tenacity encouraged me. Blessings.
DeleteAwww congrats love!!!!
Deletecan i still pledge aka with a misdemeanor on my record??
ReplyDeleteIt all depends. How long ago was it? What was the misdemeanor for? Are you going for undergrad or Alum?
DeleteFor those asking about misdemeanors or any criminal record matters, it may be worth trying to get that record expunged, so that you won't have to worry about whether it will count against your pursuit of sorority membership or career opportunities.
DeleteWell, the day has come. I received my letter of rejection in the mail on today. I didn't answer any phone calls, didn't respond to any messages as because I am just beside myself. I wanted this more than anything, and poof! My hopes and dreams are shattered. My best friend also went out for it, and I didn't have the heart to call her and tell her that I didn't make it. She haven't Called me either, so I am guessing it's because she either made it, or she feel just as embarrassed as I do. Nevertheless, congratulations to all who made it.
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ReplyDeleteI am SO thankful for this blog. Let me explain. I tried twice in college, and was rejected. I tried 3 times at the alumnae level. The 1st time I received a rejection letter due something being wrong with my community service letter. The next two times I made it to the interview phase but didn't receive majority vote. Each time I was there front and center when the new line was introduced to the community. Each time I cried on the drive home because I wanted to be one of them. After the 5th time I said forget it. I AM DONE! I gave up. I said it was their loss. But even though I did all of that, I continued to support their events. I became friends with some of the same people that I attended rush with on multiple occasions. I liked the chapter's Facebook page, followed them on Instagram, and joined their mailing list.
ReplyDeleteWhen rush was announced, (AGAIN) I was wondering if it was worth going through a 6th (yes SIXTH) rejection. I went back and forth over it, and this blog helped me in so many ways of not giving up. This time, I went in with no expectations at all. I gave my all, but I was preparing myself for the worst. I even booked a vacation at the end of March. Like the previous times before, I made it to the interview. Some of the same faces that sat next to me at previous Rushes before, were now sitting on across from me. I went into the interview giving them my all, and left the interview although feeling confident, not expecting anything. There were about 700 people at my rush. I strongly felt as if the odds were not in my favor, but I know I would be kicking myself if I didn't at least try.
I was waiting to get yet another letter in the mail. After a while, I just brushed it out of my mind altogether and started focusing on my trip. Then much to my surprise, I got the call for membership. I could't believe it. I wasn't expecting it. I even had to ask the caller if this was really happening, and the voice on the other end said yes.
After I hung up the phone, I cried. I mean like Ugly boo-hoo snot cried. I was not expecting this at all. I had to get myself together, and the money that I was going to spend on my trip, is now going toward the fees for membership. It's obvious that I had to cancel my trip, and I paid cancellation fees which was totally fine by me. My husband is an Omega, so he wasn't mad that we had to change our plans.
I am sharing my story to say, don't give up. I didn't. Was it hard, HELL YES, but I didn't give up. Each rejection was a dagger in my heart. I even kept my rejection letters for safekeeping and now those rejection letters mean a lot to me. It reminded me that I EARNED this moment. I deserve it. The women that will go through this journey with me, are suppose to be my line sisters. The women who I attend Rush with me those previous years are suppose to be my Big Sisters.
Ms. Love, thank you so much for this blog. I have been following you for years and each post gave me a glimmer of hope. You constantly said never to give up, and it was because of that, I didn't. If it wasn't for your blog, I would have given up after the 3rd rejection and I didn't.
Ladies who post on this blog, thank you! You have been helpful as well. To those who received the call to join membership, congratulation. To those who didn't, if it's still in your heart, don't give up. Please read the post/thread about not making it. I did each time I didn't make it, and it helped me a lot. I hope it helps you as well.
I will promise to come back to properly introduce myself when this process is over, but I after reading various responses from those who didn't make it I felt compelled to share my story when I am done.
Many feelings come to mind as I process my recent rejection from DST. Besides this being a life long dream as a senior in high school, I aspired to seek out this sorority. With limited role-models, I was the first in my family to seek higher education. Attending predominantly white schools did not facilitate my quest because DST was not available at any of them. Now, thirty years later, yes, you read it right, 3-0 years later, I sought my life-long dream. I attended the RUSH in GA on 1/5, and I believed that I would have been an asset to this great organization, grounded in sisterhood where scholastic achievements was heavily sought.
ReplyDeleteHere I am pursuing my doctorate full-time, full-time employed, wife, mother with loads of community service and still maintaining 3.8 GPA - I was rejected after I rendered what I thought was a heartwarming interview. Some of the women' eyes watered as I disclosed the reason why I wanted to be apart of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.
I had glowing letters, great interview, but I did not have majority votes. But is it majority vote? Or just knowing a few members? So, public service, great interview, scholastic achievements, these variables do not matter????? I guess when I read, "In Search of Sisterhood," during college, I envisioned those traditions to be carried to the forefront when making a membership decision.
I guess, I am saying all of this because I am sitting here in disbelief. I cried yesterday, tonight - I am angry. Tomorrow - I don't know what I will be. But, I feel slighted, rejected, and broken. And to think that the next time a rush may happen, because it doesn't happen often - I may be in my mid 50's. I am not certain that I could re-do this all over again, at the risk of being hurt again.
Sending love and positive vibes to you!! I know and feel your pain it is all too real.I had to read your post again because it mirrors me. Like you I am determined yes I will be in my 50 but guess what I am going to try again. You will go through a gamut of emotions. I encourage you to do exactly what Ms. Love stated after the pity party dust yourself off and try again.
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A few years have passed since this post so I hope you were able to pursue membership again and had a successful result. To other women reading this, yes personal relationships with members will always benefit you. You have to remember that fellow applicants also have similar qualifications as you and are at the top of their fields--you may have read about some of your fellow interests in magazines or seen them on TV. That is the level of competition you are up against. I always recommend that women get to know the members on a personal level--the only way to do that is to keep volunteering, participate in church activities, and attend as many events as you can. It is a "sisterhood" after all, so the members want women they feel a connection with on a sisterly level. Hopefully these recommendations help you and others in their pursuit of membership!
DeleteAs I sit here with tears dripping down my face, I still can't comprehend why I didn't make it. I had several members look over my letter, my entire packet. They all reassured me that it was good, no great is the word they used. When I got the call for the interview, I was so excited. I made it to another step other than before. I was closer to my dream. When I walked into the room to face what seemed like thousands of members starring back at me, I wanted to puke. I seriously became ill. One the members even told me to take a deep breath, I guess she could sense how nervous I was.
ReplyDeleteOther than nerves, I thought I did fairly well during the interview. The wait then began, and I jumped each time the phone rang. Then I got a call from a friend who also went out for membership. She said, Hey, I made it! I was so happy for her. I asked her if they just called her and she said, no, she thinks they made all the calls last night and she was wondering if I received a call. I told her I did not. It was then silence on the other end. I don't know if she felt bad for me, and didn't want to seem insensitive of me not making it, and I didn't want her to feel uncomfortable so I congratulated her and told her that I was truly happy. She asked if I was truly okay and I told her that I was. But truthfully I wasn't. I saw her packet. She has a bachelors, I have two Masters. She had a little over the community service requirement, where I had over 3 years of consistent community service with the same company.
When I got off the phone, I went through a lot of emotions. Mad, Sad, Angry, confused. and hurt. Then I thought about this thread. It will take me a while to stop feeling sorry for myself, but I really want to be there for my friend. We both wanted this for so long, and I am happy that she made it. The one thing I must admit that she had over me, was that she is more outgoing and she knew more of the members than I did. I am more of an introvert, so I am sure that hurt my chances of getting the majority vote. I guess I will need to wait another 7 or so years before trying again. In the meantime this stings real bad. I am just thankful for this blog. My boyfriend doesn't understand why this was so important to me, and I am a first generation college graduate so my family doesn't get it as well. Having this outlet helps a lot. Thank you.
I truly understand what you are experiencing because I am also a first generation graduate, my family, nor does my husband understand my heartfelt desire to be apart of a lifetime sisterhood. I am also a introvert, I attended many of the chapter events but only offering a smile, and never did I introduced myself besides writing my name on the attendance. I was often afraid to get the impression that I was a "groupie." I was uncertain as to naturally strike up a conversation at these programmatic thrust events. Anyways, this time - I have to get out of my comfort zone, be more outgoing, and in every sentence make sure my name is known. LOL. #Soonitwillbemyturn
DeleteI applied for graduate chapter and this was my first time even attempting to do all this. I was kind of excited and I know a lot of women in the sororities in most of the D9s. My packet was TIGHT and I even knew some of the ladies in the chapter, plus one of the ladies in the chapter wrote my letter which I thought would be a extra bonus. I had my interview, waited but received my rejection letter this weekend. I have to be very honest, I was almost relieved because now I don't have to worry about the what ifs. I now know...I am in my 50s so I am not really sure I want to do it again, but I may...plus alumnae don't have chapters very often. Maybe I was short one vote, maybe one lady did not recognize me or maybe I should have talked to every woman at the RUSH and schmoozed a little bit more. What I will say and please hear me in the utmost love I have - to all f my beautiful sisters, being rejected IS NOT the end of the world. Being in a beautiful sorority only "adds" value to your ALREADY fabulous self. Don't let this rejection make you feel less than. It does sting a little especially when you see your girls calling each other "soror" but use this time to develop you and when the time is right, it will be RIGHT. Who knows I may try again, but in the meantime, I am going to focus on something else....I got you girls. I feel you but pleaseeeeeee know that the feeling is only temporary. Your worth is not defined by that rejection letter.....no bitter betties allowed......signed a woman in her 50s who still has a vibrant life ahead.....
DeleteHello to the vibrant and fabulous woman in her 50s! You are absolutely amazing and such an inspiration. I, too, attended RUSH for D9 a few weeks ago and I haven't heard a thing. I know it is pledging season but our timelines seem to align. May I ask what city you reside? Or the acronym of the chapter in your area? My sincerest apologies if my inquiries seem intrusive. I am nervous and still swimming around in the land of "what if." Thanks vibrant lady!!
DeleteYou should try SGRHO alumnae chapter in your area. I am in my fifties and I joined this D9 org because it really fit my personality. I was originally interested in another sorority but once I started going around the ladies in SGRHO, I was hooked and now a member.
DeleteHello Soror! I am glad you decided to become a member of this illustrious sisterhood. However, I must take issue with telling someone to "try" an alumnae chapter. This gives the impression that Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc. is the catch-all for women rejected from other sororities. Sigma is very selective and should only be an option for women who truly have her in their hearts, and value her programs and mission. If women want to pursue membership in other sororities, then they should continue trying to pursue them until they make it. Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc. doesn't just accept anyone, so be careful in implying that we do. Be blessed!
DeleteHey Soror! I'm so glad you discovered the beauty that is our Sigma sisterhood. However, I would encourage you not to tell the women on this forum to "try" an Sigma Gamma Rho Alumnae chapter, as if we are the second or last choice of women rejected from their desired sororities. For a lot of the ladies on this forum, Delta Sigma Theta is in their hearts, and they should be encouraged to continue pursuing their quest for membership. Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc. is not the catch all for for women who can't get into their dream sorority, it is for women who values the Founders, programs and ideals of Sigma Gamma Rho.
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ReplyDeleteI applied to an NPHC organization my sophomore year along with my best friend. She was accepted and I was not. I was told by my best friend that the reason I was not chosen was because the girls in the chapter did not know me very well. I was hurt, but I understood. Since the initial rejection, I have made it my duty to become better and have attended nearly every program and community service event the chapter has had. I've become acquaintances with many members of the chapter. I've also taken on several leadership roles on campus. The chapter did not have a line for 2 years. I am now a senior and the line was held in the spring. My best friend who is a member and has made sure that I've done everything I was supposed to. Rush came and once again, I was rejected. I was heartbroken and very hurt because the members are always so nice to me and speak to me on a regular basis. I was told by my friend that the reason I was not chosen is because they did not want seniors on the line. They were only willing to accept one senior, and one of the seniors that applied, applied with a legacy application. I feel cheated out of a wonderful opportunity because of something that was out of my control. Becoming a member of this organization has been a dream of mine since I was a young girl. I will try again for graduate chapter, but I'm a bit discouraged and worried that I will be rejected yet again. Any advice?
For anyone reading this, if your org of choice is truly in your heart, nothing will stop you from applying again. Membership in an NPHC organization lasts far beyond undergrad, so you have many years to make memories and contributions to the community. Joining at the alumnae level can be extremely competitive, and you will need to prepare yourself for potential rejection--maybe more than once. Commit yourself to doing the best you can to get to know members and serve the community, and keep praying!
DeleteI tried to join AKA my senior year of college and I believed I had everything down pact. I had everything listed for the packet. I was an interest for 2+ years and I always spoke to individual members at events. My interview at rush went very well and I felt so confident after I left, assured I was going to get invited back. Four days later, I received a call to pick up a letter and I thought it was going to be an acceptance letter. Unfortunately, it was a rejection letter....I was extremely heartbroken. I cried for days and didn't believe I was good enough. I knew I did everything I possibly could because I studied AKA for so long and greek life in general. I had AKA mentors and exceeded my best in time for rush. The girls were rude in this chapter and very secretive in the process, never welcoming at meetings.I lost hope because I was a senior but now,I still remain an interest in graduate chapters in my area. I later discovered this line got dropped because of hazing allegations and they are now banned from my campus. God works in mysterious ways, he was protecting me this whole time. Everything truly happens for a reason. I would have been more devastated if I wasted my senior year pledging to end up getting dropped by my university.
ReplyDeleteI changed grad chapters for AKA because I had been going there for 4 years and I didn't find a sponsor. I will take responsibility and admit that I do believe that I should have networked a lot more because there was a woman who was willing to sponsor me, but she lost interest a year later.
ReplyDeleteI also ended up disliking a few members of the chapter (even the past president) because I felt they were stand offish, catty, rude, and unapproachable. I've learned from my mistakes and hopefully, I will find a sponsor this time around and get initiated into AKA. I switched chapters and so far, the ladies are friendly and I hope they don't switch up on me. I always wanted to be a member and this is something I have wanted for 6+ years.
Does anyone know how longs it takes for Corp to process apps
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ReplyDeleteI remember years back applying to pledge at a grad chapter in my area. I knew some of the members, went to every single outing and service event and participated and had an impressive resume. I didn't get picked because while my outfit was professional, one of the members didn't like what color I wore. I maintained contact and continued engaging in service events. When the next time came to pledge, they halted intake nation wide due to hazing issues. I continued reaching out and asking about intake and no one ever had any answers for me. After a while, it felt like they just weren't interested in me. The nail in the coffin was when I clearly asked about intake and didn't get any answers and not long after, had an intake process.
ReplyDeleteI was upset because I wanted to be in the organization since I was younger, but the process put a very bad taste in my mouth. Many of the members of the chapter I know in other circles and once in a while, I engage in a few service projects and activities they post for the general public, but I'm no longer interested in joining at all.
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ReplyDeleteAny tips for pursuing AKA grad membership in this virtual/Zoom space?
ReplyDeleteAny tips for pursuing AKA grad membership in this virtual/Zoom space?
ReplyDeleteAny tips for pursuing AKA grad membership in this virtual/Zoom space?
ReplyDeleteHey HerStory! I was just invited to AKA grad membership and I can definitely tell you (even though I’m sure you already know) it’s a lot more difficult in this virtual environment. It harder to get to know members and events are seldom.
ReplyDeleteThe best advice I could give you is to focus on one or two members and try to find another way to bond with them (without stalking them)! That way, there will be an organic relationship and you could find yourself being invited to membership sooner. I will say that the virtual environment benefits the interested party because you aren’t faulted for not being familiar with the entire chapter. There’s a girl on my line who only knows one member, but the sisters trust their soror’s judgment and invited her to membership when usually that would not have been the case.
So maybe see what other clubs a member is in. You could worship with them or even volunteer with them outside of it being just for the org you’re interested in. The only way in is to have someone agree to be your sponsor so this is the most efficient way for if you don’t already have an “inside person”
I am interested in a graduate chapter. I was confronted by a member and told not to Apply and that she doesn't care for me. She flat out said she was not voting for me and that she was going to tell everyone else not to vote me in. Mind you I've done nothing wrong to this lady that I hardly know. Isn't that considered hazing?
ReplyDeleteYou should still apply. That’s only one vote. You also don’t know what this persons true status is in the organization.
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ReplyDeleteI want to apply for organization xyz grad chapter. I have my bachelors degree and now is pursuing my Masters degree. My GPA in grad school is a 4.0 so far and my undergraduate degree GPA is a 3.1. Also I am kind of shy when meeting new people and going to crowds. Before COVID, I did community service work for organizations in my area. Currently, I am in two organizations, a honor society and work two jobs. There are two grad chapters that I am interested in based on where I am located. Can I attend events for both chapters? One chapter, I do not see that many events but the other chapter, they have many events. What is the minimum requirement of community service for grad chapter? I have community service from 2018 and 2019 but life changes such as relocating, finances and the pandemic has made it difficult. Will those count or do I need more recent hours? How would I get to know the members of the chapter because I want to be myself and not come off as being fake. This organization I wanted to be a part of for a while now, I felt like I met some nice people from this particular organization from the workplace and school. I am a first generation college student, my parents did not go to college, most of my family barely made it through high school so I don’t have any family that is in greek organizations. Some of my favorite famous people that I read about, heard their stories and listen to their music are a part of this organization and it’s my life-long dream to not only become the first member of my family to go to grad school and graduate undergrad, but to join a Greek letter organization. I know that God will make this happen and I won’t give up.
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The answers to some of your question really depends on the organization in which you would like to pursue membership. Several questions, such as which graduate chapter's events to attend or community service requirements, can be found by going on the org's website. The best way to get to know members of the org is to do as much service in the community as possible. I can almost guarantee that many of the members are affiliated with well-known orgs such as the Urban League, NCNW, and the NAACP. When they see you at events held by these orgs, then they'll know that you're committed to service and it's also a great way to get to know them on a pesonal level. Please don't let your being shy be a hindrance to getting to know members. They will possibly become your sisters (or brothers, for fraternity members) in the future, and no org wants to vote in members they don't know or feel would be a good sister or brother. I wish you the best on your journey to NPHC membership!
DeleteIf you are doing the community service work that these organizations require of prospective members, then you will most likely encounter members of your desired organization. If the members see you out in the community working hard, then they will recognize you when they have events, both in person and online. Believe me, they members definitely notice.
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ReplyDeleteIn undergrad, I really wanted to be an AKA. I tried my best to impress the ladies on my campus. I went to an HBCU and there was a line cap. There were also a lot of legacies wanting to pledge as well. Since I am a first time college student in my family, I didn't have anyone to talk to in turns of knowing what to expect.
ReplyDeleteSpring Semester came and Rush Flyers went out. I was nervous, but applied and put everything out on the table. I didn't get picked. I went to their show and although I was thrilled for everyone, I was envious. I tired again my senior year and.... didn't get in.
Fast fwd 10 years later. I am now happily married, 1 child and one on the way. I am well into my career and I have met a lot of greek people along the way. I have grown very fond of Delta. They seemed so friendly, down to earth, and even invited me to a few of their events. Now I am thinking about joining. If I changed my mind, do I have to let them know about my previous interests of wanting to be an AKA?
Only focus on pledging Delta
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ReplyDeleteWhat exactly is corporate reviewing when they have your background check and application??? Are they looking at the whole application for signatures and dates or just comparing address and names and stuff to the background check? What would I get rejected for at this point
ReplyDeleteThis is what I’d like to know!
DeleteMy daughter has tried twice and has been rejected and is really having a hard time this time around with her rejection. It’s been said that one of the members do not like her and she has never done anything to this young lady, she doesn’t even know the young lady. People do let personal reasons tarnish these young ladies dreams of belonging to organizations which isn’t fair. When asking about the rejection no answer is given about what can be done next time to ensure a spot.
ReplyDeleteThis same thing happened to me. One of the members (who was a neo at the time) said something very disrespectful to one of my friends and I told her to let it go and that she was just being hateful. Needless to say someone went back and told her that I said it and she looks at me crazy every time she sees me. I feel like that’s the reason I didn’t get in. I’m thinking of trying again next year but if that’s something they’re going to get mad over when she was in wrong then I’m cool off of it.
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ReplyDeleteI am feeling discouraged because it's about to be 10 whole years since I started being interested in joining AKA (I recently turned 30 and I was interested in membership since I was 21).
This will be my 3rd attempt of getting membership. The first attempt was in undergrad and they ended up not having a line. The second attempt was in grad chapter. I couldn't find a sponsor in time and I tried attending events for two chapters because I wanted to see where I fit best. Both chapters ended up having lines and I wasn't included in either one. This time around, I will return to the first chapter and hopefully I make it this time around since I know of a couple of the members in it despite the chapter being huge. I will be coming back to post here if I do make it.
There was a moratorium on AKA having lines which have been lifted at least in the undergraduate chapters. Also chapters had to do mandatory training in Chicago.
DeleteWhat time of day are calls being made for Alumnae Chapter if you make it.. Still waiting....
ReplyDeleteAre you referring to DST or an AKA alumnae chapter ??which state? County?
DeleteHi everyone, there are two chapters I am interested in within my area for grad chapter. Can someone help and explain with DST, am I only allowed to apply for the one in my service area? I am within a 40 mile radius for both. I'm really trying to pick myself up after rejection. I'm trying to see the positive and bright side. I wanted it really bad in undergrad but it just didn't work out.
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